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Hypothesis - Aspies dealing with hurt and pain

I know, because I've experienced it myself, that an aspie male, avoiding his own pain, usually causes even greater pain, in the people that are closer to him. It is a horrible feeling for the woman, who feels as if she has been thrown under the bus by her own partner. He threw her down there to save himself. Plain and simple.

It hurts very deeply because the person you love the most is the same person that abandons you or betrays you. The same one that was suppose to be there for you and love you, it's actually the same one that causes you to suffer; all because he has to run away from his own pain, because either he can't, or doesn't know, how to deal with it.
 
Sabrina said:
I know, because I've experienced it myself, that an aspie male, avoiding his own pain, usually causes even greater pain, in the people that are closer to him. It is a horrible feeling for the woman, who feels as if she has been thrown under the bus by her own partner. He threw her down there to save himself. Plain and simple.

It hurts very deeply because the person you love the most is the same person that abandons you or betrays you. The same one that was suppose to be there for you and love you, it's actually the same one that causes you to suffer; all because he has to run away from his own pain, because either he can't, or doesn't know, how to deal with it.
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To counter this a little.

My normal is to hold back and work hard to interpret what is thrown at me.
I have tried to communicate 'me'
But extra layers are put in top.
It is normally not what is expected. Emotional levels are raised.
It isn't realised how much of an effort I put in each day to communicate- the 'me' I attempt is an alien and very stressful for them.
I then resort back to not bothering.
I don't think they can understand when to me it's just literal statements- no add ons-
Them it's what does that mean?

It means what it says on the tin. Please accept that.

I guess everyone has a different situation
 
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