zelgadis
New Member
it has come to my attention recently that i never seem to appear that i'm listening or acknowledging my friend's interests, problems, etc. while i don't mean to do this, it's been putting a strain on my friendships and i've been warned to change my behaviours.
i'd like to change my bad habits, but the problem is i never have the energy to care about things that aren't relevant to my interests. it's my achilles heel when it comes to my social skills. my brain's subconscious thoughts are "if it isn't relevant to me, why should i give any input?"
i know that is kinda rude to say, but that's how my brain works. i never really have much to say unless i know that it will matter somehow. what if i don't know what the person is talking about? what if the person's problem is out of my control and i can't give advice? it's hard for me to care when i should.
does anyone have tips on how i could change this behavior?
i'd like to change my bad habits, but the problem is i never have the energy to care about things that aren't relevant to my interests. it's my achilles heel when it comes to my social skills. my brain's subconscious thoughts are "if it isn't relevant to me, why should i give any input?"
i know that is kinda rude to say, but that's how my brain works. i never really have much to say unless i know that it will matter somehow. what if i don't know what the person is talking about? what if the person's problem is out of my control and i can't give advice? it's hard for me to care when i should.
does anyone have tips on how i could change this behavior?