HelpNeededinNYC
Active Member
I started dating an Aspie a few months ago (I am not) and things started out slowly but we had a lot in common. After a few dates (we had already begun sleeping together, and it was very good), he told me he didn't want a serious relationship for a number of reasons (work, he wasn't good in relationships), but still wanted to remain friends. I got worked up over this, but we ended up getting closer than ever. We have still slept together just a couple times, but he ends up pulling back when we do. The thing is, we converse from the second we wake up to the moment we go to bed (mostly through text, but also through email and phone), share everything with each other, often sleep in bed together, and he's very affectionate with me. We've gotten into one big fight where he said something that seriously hurt my feelings and I was very upset and said I wasn't sure if we could continue on and he was crying so hard. We have discussed the relationship thing two or three times and his stance on it has not changed: He believes I am too sensitive for him to be in a relationship with because he would say things that hurt my feelings or I would not understand and therefore "we would end up driving each other crazy and I would eventually want to kill" him. But I am so confused because I feel like I am in a relationship at this point. We are so close, closer than I've been with many men I have been dating.
What should I do, how should I proceed?
What should I do, how should I proceed?