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How to know when to stop

Discussion in 'Love, Relationships and Dating' started by rcogspe, Jul 12, 2019 at 11:09 AM.

  1. rcogspe

    rcogspe New Member

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    Hello,

    Long-time reader, first-time poster.

    I have a dilemma. I have found somebody online who I am very interested in. She is perfect in every way - we share the same hobbies, work in the same profession, and live within 50 kilometres or so.

    I've sent her a few messages to which she briefly responded to, and then sent her a message a few days ago asking how she was.

    I haven't heard anything since.

    Is it worth pursuing this, or should I stop? I have never been in a relationship and feel entirely uncomfortable, but as I said, she appears to be perfect in every way.

    Thank you in advance.
     
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  2. BraidedPony

    BraidedPony Just Enjoying Survival V.I.P Member

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    First of all, humans aren't perfect.
    I would send another message because she may not have seen the one you sent.
     
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  3. Tom

    Tom Well-Known Member V.I.P Member

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    I'd wait a while to see if she responds. Lack of responding can mean she isn't interested and you have to respect that. But after a few weeks it is probably ok to try once more in case she didn't see it as BraidedPony mentioned and/or indicate you still are interested. If she doesn't respond to that, stop trying and move on to something else.
     
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  4. Fino

    Fino Alex V.I.P Member

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    Depending on the specifics of the "brief" messages already received, I'd say not to bother. It sounds like she was answering to be polite then stopped.

    But I know how you feel with feeling she is perfect, so I'm sorry.

    And "feeling" is a better word than "thinking," because we don't "think" people are perfect, since our rational minds know that isn't possible, but we still "feel" people are perfect sometimes.
     
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