How to feel the same as other people

[Geordie]

Why other people act in the same way, and it's really acceptable? How to feel more normal than normal, although this sounds comparatively, well, uhm, relatively weird?

 

[Occasional_Demon]

People don't act the "same" way. They might act in similar ways, but every person's actions are unique to themselves - their external behaviours and their internal processes vary from individual to individual. It's just that with people who are not on the spectrum, they have an easier time with communication because their way of communicating makes more sense to others who think similarly, whereas people on the spectrum tend to be more atypical in their communication. I would even hazard to say that a lot of the time, communication from a person on the spectrum can be a one-way street - they can express themselves but it's harder to understand where they are coming from.

 

[Geordie]

Where are other people coming from? Uh-huh... isn't this sort of an inability to socialize?

Well thanks

 

[Spinning Compass]

I think that this is a skill we all have to work on, and there are no easy answers or quick fixes. One thing I have learned is that the brain is not fixed or permanent but keeps changing as we age. I have insights and social skills now in my fifties that I definitely did not possess in my twenties, nor did I have the capacity to understand them either. I was a very different person 30-40 years ago. Back then you had to go it alone, there were no forums like this to talk about these sorts of things. So you may find that it comes easier as you age. I hope this helps.

 

[Geordie]

I think I'll share some of my issues with time.

Meanwhile, I hope to mature into a better man.