How to appeal to neurodivergent women online?

[Poppy98]

Three of them I met on dating apps. The fourth was kind of a fringe member of a friend group I was in when I was in my early and mid-20s. She would sometimes play beach volleyball with us. She was great and super cute. I am amazed she agreed to go out with me. But she did. it was a lovely date.

Tbh they might be able to tell someone (like a mutual friend) what appealed to them about you so you can play to your strengths.


Sometimes it's not that dates wouldn't have been interested in the real you, it's that they don't know the right stuff about you to know that they like the real you.


I think there's a real risk of that happening repeatedly.

 

[Poppy98]

I have three degrees, two BA's one in English and other history. And an MA in English.

I like reading and writing online I like writing just like this

Yes, I think it's fairly likely you should include that.

Also at some point everyone should give you ideas on how to best sell yourself on your first date.

 

[Cassandra65]

Hello, my name is Brian. I am 39 and I live in West Virginia. I am autistic.

I am looking for a girlfriend. My biggest goal in life is to get into a relationship and to share as much of my life with someone else as possible. I am a rather shy and unique person, so I have decided to limit my looking for someone to date to the internet and dating apps.

I am having a difficult time getting anyone to be interested in me or wanting to date me. I know I am a unique person who lives a bit of an alternative lifestyle so I know I will probably always need to date women who either have a unique set of values or are neurodivergent.

I guess this question is mostly to women on here who are neurodivergent. How can an autistic guy like me appeal to you online or on dating apps? I am not sure how best to put myself out there on the internet and dating apps to show women I am seriously looking for a long-term relationship. Any advice or guidance on that front would be greatly appreciated.

Thank you so very much in advance. Any and all answers will be appreciated.

I'm high-functioning, most likely Asperger's. My number one attraction in dating (and everything else!) is honesty. Apparently it's part of my Asperger's - we just don't see the point in lying, since the truth always comes out in the end, why waste everyone's time and energy with lies? So my best advice is be honest and be yourself - IMO that's the best way to find the right match for you. Take time with writing your profile - it's the thing that usually makes or breaks your chances of making contact with someone. Make it clear you're looking for long-term commitment. Be a little bit vulnerable (but not too much!). Sincere women will appreciate honesty over chest-beating/bragging etc any day.

 

[BrianWV39]

I'm high-functioning, most likely Asperger's. My number one attraction in dating (and everything else!) is honesty. Apparently it's part of my Asperger's - we just don't see the point in lying, since the truth always comes out in the end, why waste everyone's time and energy with lies? So my best advice is be honest and be yourself - IMO that's the best way to find the right match for you. Take time with writing your profile - it's the thing that usually makes or breaks your chances of making contact with someone. Make it clear you're looking for long-term commitment. Be a little bit vulnerable (but not too much!). Sincere women will appreciate honesty over chest-beating/bragging etc any day.

Thank you

 

[Gerald Wilgus]

This is many years ago. None of them ever asked, though they did tell me part of the attraction for them was that I was perceived as being "different". Without going into any explanations.

Though back then I never gave the thought of being neurodivergent either.

I think part of what attracted my spouse that I was quite different from the guys who would approach her. Plus, we met under little pressure or expectation and I let my authenticity out to play. That made all the difference in starting our relationship.

 

[Judge]

I think part of what attracted my spouse that I was quite different from the guys who would approach her. Plus, we met under little pressure or expectation and I let my authenticity out to play. That made all the difference in starting our relationship.

Sounds familiar.