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Kigiru16

Kigiru16

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Hello im asperger and I met my best friend 2 years ago and a week ago I discovered he is asperger too. We go to a specialist together, but he doesn't know he actually is. When he was in the school many boys insulted agreded him (bullying) and I want to give him a huge idk why couse I've never liked hugs
 
I think it shows you have such an emotional connection with him that you can forego your dislike for hugs for this one person because of the trust you have formed with that person. It's a way to show that you care.
 
The first part of your post confused me. Your friend doesn't know of his diagnosis, or his therapist doesn't know you two are friends?

Many Aspies don't like to be touched at all, and some need to feel a bond or emotional closeness in order to allow a hug.

Hugs (personal touch) are important for a person's emotional well-being, and as we grow up, many seem to lose that until something reminds them.

If you feel a kinship with your friend because you are both Aspies, but he doesn't know about his diagnosis, he might not be as receptive of it because he won't understand what you are feeling "close" about.

Or, just walk up to him and ask if he'd like a hug. If he says, "No," just know you tried. Don't disclose anything he doesn't already know, because that would be crossing personal boundaries and be inappropriate.

http://health.usnews.com/health-new...les/2016-02-03/the-health-benefits-of-hugging
 
Diagnosed2015 said:
The first part of your post confused me. Your friend doesn't know of his diagnosis, or his therapist doesn't know you two are friends?

Many Aspies don't like to be touched at all, and some need to feel a bond or emotional closeness in order to allow a hug.

Hugs (personal touch) are important for a person's emotional well-being, and as we grow up, many seem to lose that until something reminds them.

If you feel a kinship with your friend because you are both Aspies, but he doesn't know about his diagnosis, he might not be as receptive of it because he won't understand what you are feeling "close" about.

Or, just walk up to him and ask if he'd like a hug. If he says, "No," just know you tried. Don't disclose anything he doesn't already know, because that would be crossing personal boundaries and be inappropriate.

http://health.usnews.com/health-new...les/2016-02-03/the-health-benefits-of-hugging
Click to expand...
Diagnosed2015 said:
The first part of your post confused me. Your friend doesn't know of his diagnosis, or his therapist doesn't know you two are friends?

Many Aspies don't like to be touched at all, and some need to feel a bond or emotional closeness in order to allow a hug.

Hugs (personal touch) are important for a person's emotional well-being, and as we grow up, many seem to lose that until something reminds them.

If you feel a kinship with your friend because you are both Aspies, but he doesn't know about his diagnosis, he might not be as receptive of it because he won't understand what you are feeling "close" about.

Or, just walk up to him and ask if he'd like a hug. If he says, "No," just know you tried. Don't disclose anything he doesn't already know, because that would be crossing personal boundaries and be inappropriate.

http://health.usnews.com/health-new...les/2016-02-03/the-health-benefits-of-hugging
Click to expand...

Thank you very much, my native language is Spanish. my best friend doesn't know he is Asperger because the therapist is not allowed to tell him that (I can tell It here because I don't give personal information) Im 16 and he is 14
 
I you have the wrong person, I know my diganoses which is Samatic Pragmatic Disorder, all a counts it is on the high functioning side of the autism spectrum and I am proud of this.

I have loads of friends and that's the way I like it. So you need to do a bit of research on this.
 
Diagnosed2015 said:
The first part of your post confused me. Your friend doesn't know of his diagnosis, or his therapist doesn't know you two are friends?

Many Aspies don't like to be touched at all, and some need to feel a bond or emotional closeness in order to allow a hug.

Hugs (personal touch) are important for a person's emotional well-being, and as we grow up, many seem to lose that until something reminds them.

If you feel a kinship with your friend because you are both Aspies, but he doesn't know about his diagnosis, he might not be as receptive of it because he won't understand what you are feeling "close" about.

Or, just walk up to him and ask if he'd like a hug. If he says, "No," just know you tried. Don't disclose anything he doesn't already know, because that would be crossing personal boundaries and be inappropriate.

http://health.usnews.com/health-new...les/2016-02-03/the-health-benefits-of-hugging
Click to expand...
 
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