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I've noticed that people think that you aren't listening if you don't give eye contact. Ironic, because if I don't give eye contact, I find it uncomfortable and difficult to concentrate and don't listen. I can concentrate far better without eye contact. Also, if people think that you aren't listening, they poke or touch you to catch your attention, which is also unpleasant, so it's best to try and give some eye contact.
The new Arena album cover is extremely uncomfortable to look at (I will post a link rather than pasting it into the thread because I don't want to spook people).I can't even look at a picture of a person in the eye.
Wow, is it ever.The new Arena album cover is extremely uncomfortable to look at (I will post a link rather than pasting it into the thread because I don't want to spook people).
ARENA - Double Vision (2018)
It's hard to describe.
It feels wrong, distracting, and kind of overpowering. It'd difficult to focus on anything else if I'm looking someone in the eyes. Definitely makes me want to look away.
And yet, until I found out I had ASD a year ago, I didn't even realise that this wasn't the case for everyone. I thought everyone only looked people in the eyes for a second or less, then had to look away.
Since I found out I have ASD, I've paid attention and noticed that other people, if having a deep conversation, stare each other in the eyes the whole time. I couldn't do that.
From my observation, it seems to vary a lot. Definitely if two NTs a having a deep conversion, they will stare into each other's eyes the whole time. But for something more casual, it seems to be more in and out. If there's something else that they have reason to focus on, they will have the entire conversion without looking at each other at all.I am really rather unclear about what "normal" eye contact amounts to, in fact. What percentage of the time, when two NTs are talking to each other, would they be engaging in eye-to-eye contact, I wonder?
I am really rather unclear about what "normal" eye contact amounts to, in fact. What percentage of the time, when two NTs are talking to each other, would they be engaging in eye-to-eye contact, I wonder?
panic 90% of the time ,nice 10% of the timeHi all, I hope I'm not repeating this. I'd like to hear from anyone willing to share what their inner experiences are when making eye contact. I learned at an early age that I needed to do it for survival. I've had some particular symptoms that we believed were related to my complex PTSD. However, since my psychiatrist discussed exploring ASD, I've been practising limiting my eye contact and have experienced a very significant decrease in the painful symptoms. These are a type of painful arousal (not sexual) that I'm completely unable to self-soothe, and must just allow to settle in their own time. I've also been trying to observe what I'm observing in people's eyes that is sk uncomfortable and painful to experience. I'm extremely new to this (only 2 weeks since my shrink led me to it).
Would anyone please share their experiences? Cheers Mark