Thankfully it doesn't happen all the time, but perhaps if it did, I would be able to handle it better.
Just the other day, I was chatting with another female and it was ok; I felt a little bit on edge but was coping and just said that when I was little and had not finished my sentance, when she came out with: you haven't grown much or something like that and in truth, I felt that I had my head whipped back in shock. I was utterly confused, because first, she was only a bit taller and that was due to wearing a bit more of a heel than me, but actually, we are the same size, so I could not fathom why she would say it. I know it may seem inoffensive, but I can read enough a person's tone to know it was out of spite, but WHY? I just said rather lamely: umm we are the same height. But it plagues on my mind, because of the HIDDEN meaning. So, I know I can say things like: precious things come in small packages etc ( I am 5ft4ins), but I cannot help want to know WHY it was said? What MOTIVE? Because you see, if there is something about me that is distasteful, then how can I work on it, if one hides behind being nice?
Just the other day, I was chatting with another female and it was ok; I felt a little bit on edge but was coping and just said that when I was little and had not finished my sentance, when she came out with: you haven't grown much or something like that and in truth, I felt that I had my head whipped back in shock. I was utterly confused, because first, she was only a bit taller and that was due to wearing a bit more of a heel than me, but actually, we are the same size, so I could not fathom why she would say it. I know it may seem inoffensive, but I can read enough a person's tone to know it was out of spite, but WHY? I just said rather lamely: umm we are the same height. But it plagues on my mind, because of the HIDDEN meaning. So, I know I can say things like: precious things come in small packages etc ( I am 5ft4ins), but I cannot help want to know WHY it was said? What MOTIVE? Because you see, if there is something about me that is distasteful, then how can I work on it, if one hides behind being nice?