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CheshireGrin

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Greetings!
I stumbled across this forum while searching for any kind of help understanding AS. I have a very close friend/boyfriend who was recently diagnosed and as an NT, I want to be able to understand things on his level. Although my experience has been limited, you have all been so kind and helpful I already feel among friends. :)

Thanks all!
 
Welcome to the forums! We have a number of NT friends/partner here, and I hope you can learn plenty from them, as well as from those of us who are on the spectrum ourselves. :)
 
Wow, he is so blessed to have found you ☺

I am officially, unofficially diagnosed lol meaning that some recognise I have aspergers, due to having someone in their family, who is an aspie and another, who worked with a male aspie.

For me, being that I am married to a very NT man, I have to say to not get offended when he seems to not care ie looks bored or he doesn't tell you he loves you or forgets to hug etc

What seems to work with me is when my husband uses his hand to say: lower your voice, but with a friendly smile. He used to shout at me, which caused melt downs.

Try not to overwhelm him with tasks to perform. If he is anything like me, he will take what you say literally.

The best way to tackle his obsessions or intense interest in something, is to break the link, perhaps go for a walk.

Just in case you do not know, we aspies, can learn to improve, in our in environment, but will shut down if the situation is too hard to bear.

Since you are knowingly in this relationship, then you can help him to feel less alien!
 
Thanks all, for the welcome, and thanks Suzanne, for the advice! Sometimes things seem so natural and we get along so well that it's hard to remember when AS might play a role in our understanding of each other....and other times it is so obvious that we are coming from such different perspectives that i despair of ever truly understanding. This forum has been very helpful and I'm looking into what resources I can, I appreciate all of your experiences and advice! :)
 
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