I have six grandchildren and three have been dx'd years ago w/being on the autistic spectrum. Two of those three have Asperger's. I also work with children who are on the spectrum. Therefore, I feel that I do know some about the spectrum. My son and his wife are divorced. Many years ago I talked to them about Adam (my grandson) having many signs and symptoms of being on the spectrum. His wife was furious with me and stopped talking to me. She absolutely refused to have him tested. He use to walk on his toes and do a great dealing of arm flapping. He makes very little to no eye contact. He has always freaked out over loud noises. He has no social skills. He can't understand a joke and takes everything seriously word for word. He's obsessed with certain "things" (when young would watch the wheels on cars as he moved them for hours), now it's history. When he visits, he spends almost the entire time in his room with the door shut looking historical events up on his laptop. He use to spend his time in the large closet playing by himself, but he doesn't do that as much any longer. He had major meltdowns when younger, but is better now. That's just a few on the signs, the list goes on and on. Adam is 16 and he's extremely intelligent. I personally think he needs to be told that he possibly has Asperger's so he could understand why he's "different". His Mother would have an absolute fit to say the least! I've told my son how I feel but he has no response. He recently told me that he knew that Adam probably would not get into an ivy league school (as he and Adam's brother did) because he knows Adam won't interview well. I know it is not my place to tell Adam. He recently asked me questions about his cousins who are on the spectrum. I have thought about saying to him that I saw a video online that will help him understand his cousins and let him watch it. ANY OPINIONS WOULD BE WELCOMED.