Hi

[Vanilla]

I'm going to stick up for mothers because I think you are making an unfair assumption. There are many things that I do as a mother that makes me feel terrible. The only reason I do them is because my love for my daughters outweighs my fear. I have extreme social anxiety and would rather stay in my home where I feel safe and comfortable than go out and be with people. I know I'm not the only mother who does things out of love rather than doing them for some kind of personal reward. I have no need for people to think I'm wonderful because of anything I do for someone else. I also know many people who do good things anonymously. If you think about it, surely there has been someone who has been kind to you with no expectations of reward. I certainly hope so.

Aw, hey Mo

Please don't take offence to what I say. It's not intended as a jab, and I was not talking about all mothers, simply that I find many mothers fall in to this trap.

It sounds harsh, and cold, but it is merely an analysis. The reason I can say this, is because I've seen it with my own eyes, time and time again. From friends of the family, co-workers, even on TV. I have even worked in a job before, providing services to many elderly people, who were not receiving much, or any support from their families. About 80% of them were women, who had given their lives for their children's futures, and were left; lonely and alone in retirement. I've spent much time having long conversations with these women, and I feel for them, I truly do. That's why I try to encourage them to think for themselves for once, because many of them never do. They're always helping everyone else, and never themselves.

 

[Warwick C]

I'll give you credit tridianprime, for trying to find a balance in your life now. I felt some of your earlier posts to be
rather negative, but it may have been that you yourself had swung to that extreme to protect yourself.

We are here not to change you but help you to find a balance in life, to make you happier.

 

[tridianprime]

Thanks, i do take all into account and appreciate feedback.

 

[MoCoffee]

No offence taken Vanilla and Tridian. I just wanted to show a more balanced viewpoint. Tridian, I can understand why you feel the way you do considering your background. Sometimes the people who are supposed to love us cause us the most pain. I'm so sorry that was your experience.