nt&aspie-rship
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Hi everyone,
I'm looking for some advice about my current situation. This is the shortened down version lol.
I'm and NT woman dating an aspie woman.
We have been dating for approximately 5 months. The first 3 months or so we're we're amazing & we both were happy & spent almost every w/end together.
After the first 3 months the texting & calling became almost non existent.
Then about a month ago I was invited round to her place and she went out the whole day and left me alone with her dog and couldn't seem to understand I was there to see her. When she got back I walked out and went home. Then received a text saying "nothing she had done justified me walking out on her".
I was very upset that she couldn't understand my frustration and feelings and in return sent some very angry hurtful texts, out of anger.
The following day she sent a message saying "she no longer wants to hurt so that means she doesn't want to be with me anymore".
I don't understand after one fight how someone can switch off their feelings?
Then she stonewalled/ghosted me for 2 weeks. I eventually sent a message saying that I was sorry for my part of our argument but I didn't walk out for the fun of it & that I needed to text & accept responsibility for my words etc before I could move on. &Since I was being ignored how could we work through things with no Comms etc..
I then received a message back saying "she'd been over her part of the argument a lot too, trust her". We then text a few more times about work, the dogs etc. So I phoned her. We got talking about feelings after a while. She said "she misses me,cares about me & wants to make our r/ship work...but doesn't love me anymore & how could she after such a small amount of time?". Huh?
She said that with work, flat mate drama, her therapy for her only recently finding out about her HFA & our r/ship has totally overwhelmed her and even though I've been everything a good gf should be she needs even more time & space(already 5 weeks of very minimal contact)
I have no idea what to think, do or say about any of this tbh. I am so confused and would really appreciate any suggestions or feedback. Is this her way of breaking up? Will more space be more damaging? Is there anyway we can have the same contact again, in time? Etc.
Thanks in advance.
I'm looking for some advice about my current situation. This is the shortened down version lol.
I'm and NT woman dating an aspie woman.
We have been dating for approximately 5 months. The first 3 months or so we're we're amazing & we both were happy & spent almost every w/end together.
After the first 3 months the texting & calling became almost non existent.
Then about a month ago I was invited round to her place and she went out the whole day and left me alone with her dog and couldn't seem to understand I was there to see her. When she got back I walked out and went home. Then received a text saying "nothing she had done justified me walking out on her".
I was very upset that she couldn't understand my frustration and feelings and in return sent some very angry hurtful texts, out of anger.
The following day she sent a message saying "she no longer wants to hurt so that means she doesn't want to be with me anymore".
I don't understand after one fight how someone can switch off their feelings?
Then she stonewalled/ghosted me for 2 weeks. I eventually sent a message saying that I was sorry for my part of our argument but I didn't walk out for the fun of it & that I needed to text & accept responsibility for my words etc before I could move on. &Since I was being ignored how could we work through things with no Comms etc..
I then received a message back saying "she'd been over her part of the argument a lot too, trust her". We then text a few more times about work, the dogs etc. So I phoned her. We got talking about feelings after a while. She said "she misses me,cares about me & wants to make our r/ship work...but doesn't love me anymore & how could she after such a small amount of time?". Huh?
She said that with work, flat mate drama, her therapy for her only recently finding out about her HFA & our r/ship has totally overwhelmed her and even though I've been everything a good gf should be she needs even more time & space(already 5 weeks of very minimal contact)
I have no idea what to think, do or say about any of this tbh. I am so confused and would really appreciate any suggestions or feedback. Is this her way of breaking up? Will more space be more damaging? Is there anyway we can have the same contact again, in time? Etc.
Thanks in advance.