Lol, thanks. I went through masking phase as a teen and for long time wasn't sure about underperforming in certain areas and started to doubt myself.
Confusion I also had for many years up til recently was confusion in gender roles, but not as in I'm gay but not always understanding this man respect role, not as in being disrespectful but that society imprints this belief in men as elevated species and feeling confused as to why I failed to see his intelligence and later questioning having being told what to do when it doesn't make sense. When I got divorced he wasn't sleeping on the couch and was being selfish towards kids. I decided I wanted to move him out the house and was informed that you not entitled to move a man out his house, by this stage I'd stopped masking and learnt I wasn't going to take it, I didn't feel he'd earned his rights, I actually felt he behaved more like the emotional baggage with the PM's.
I think you were dealing with a "beta". Respect is earned not given, but a "beta" might demand respect, project himself as "intelligent", and will use psychological and verbal abuse and manipulation to make you think you are "less than". These types of men are very good at "nibbling" away at their female partner's self-esteem. It's horribly destructive.
I don't think society imprints this belief that men are "elevated". Weak males do like to "talk it up" around other weak males, yes. I've seen that, and its just ridiculous and embarrassing because they clearly don't understand. To the contrary, despite a very tiny fraction of 0.1% of "hyper performing" males that own nearly all the capital and wealth, there is also an overwhelming population of males at the other end of the spectrum that are disaffected, struggling, single, jobless, homeless, incarcerated, and are committing suicide. If there is any thing that we need to "imprint" on males is this idea that we should be responsible for ourselves and others.
If you are autistic, then you may not recognize or appreciate social hierarchy. I am very guilty of it. I treat physicians, the CEO of the company (yes, I know her), my peers, my patients families, even the cleaning staff,...all the same. I treat people equally. Now, in some social situations that's actually preferred, but in others, it is a clear violation of respect and decorum. If your partner is being somehow upset or offended that you somehow not "giving" him respect, it's likely because he hadn't earned it yet. So, too bad for him. Boo hoo.
As far as who moves out of the house, well that depends, and it doesn't have anything to do with "entitlement". If you two purchased the home jointly, then these things go to arbitration, perhaps meaning that the home be sold. You both split the value of your assets. Why should anyone be forced to simply be left out in the cold without a home, and still have to pay for the roof over their ex-partners head? That's not at all equitable, and credit ratings for one or the other could be destroyed. Sell the assets, split the money, and go your separate ways. There are no "winners" or "losers" here. If the house in solely in one partner's name, then the other must leave, period.