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NaomiJ

NaomiJ

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Hi, I'm Naomi. I'm 36 and was diagnosed with Asperger's two years ago (although I suspected it for a long time). I'm currently trying to learn more about Asperger's and coping strategies, especially how women can be different from men on the spectrum. (I'm not what I would consider a typical Aspie - I'm very demonstratively emotional, highly anxious, etc.) I'm a postgrad student, which is very challenging for me at the moment. I live a lot of my life online. I'm physically disabled and do a lot of disability rights campaigning, also LGBT, interfaith and race equality stuff. I'm a Pagan. I live with my NT partner and two wonderful cats. Looking forward to chatting to you here. This seems like a useful, supportive place.
 
Hello Naomi

I am a tad older than yourself at an amazing 45 :rolleyes: and married to an nt and even if not the same challenge as yourself, I live in France and that is some challenge, especially as I am chronically social phobic; HATE with a passion being scrutinized, even if I am not, I feel it!

I am married to an nt, which is another heck of a challenge and like you, spend a lot of my life online, but lol not like you, I am a christian, one of Jehovah's Witnesses :D

I discovered aspergers in one of our magazines in 2008 and whoa thought I was reading about myself! Since then, I have come to realise that I am more on the spectrum than I thought! Having lived with an nt for 24 year's nearly, I have learned to read faces and can be sarcastic and witty, occasionally and do not have a monotone voice, which is often attributed to aspies. Hyper sensitive, but also learning that this label is attached to me, so that nts have the excuse to be nasty ie mock etc. It came to me suddenly when this guy said to me that his brothers often mock other people and how I would not survive two seconds in their company; not exactly complimentary to be known as hyper sensitive, but it got me thinking: is his brothers right to mock people they have no knowledge of? NOPE, not at all and thus, I think I have normal sensitivities but learn to not react. Like if someone says that I look great that evening; in my head I am thinking: oh so I do not look nice every day? But I just smile and thank them!

French people are horrendously tactless and it is hard to deal with, since I am a red head and thus, blush very easily and that is a prime target for them to have a field day and terrible for me, who hates her colouring!

Female aspies are different to male aspies. You have come to the right place, for all the information you can cope with on what being a female aspie is all about.
 
Welcome NaomiJ. I like your avatar. I find my 2 cats help with my anxiety. Best to you with the post-grad work. You sound very busy, in a good way. :)
 
Belated welcome to you Naomi, you'll find the diversity you're looking for here on AC.

Check out the resource section, it's well worth the visit.

Enjoy your stay!
 
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