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Swiftykitty

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Hi I just recently got diagnosed with just classic autism even though Its obvious that I’m high functioning recently at 20 years old after struggling in college wit her the transition from high school to college and noticing how different, and more emotionally sensitive immature and childlike and dependent on my parents I was then everyone else my age . I had always felt different though.

My interests are Taylor Swift and animals . I also like shopping listening to music and reading and watching YouTube .

Also I’ve had something weird happen to me that is kind of hard to explains but I will try to do my best . I think it has to do with Autism but I don’t know why it has happened to me and haven’t herd of anything like it when I googled about it .

Up until I went to college I feel like my brain was stuck in child mode and I only thought in the past and present . I , for the most part , blindly did what my parents told me to do and was blind to the real adult world . Words like work and bills were only words to me . I never understood what work was why my dad went there or what he did there only that he went there in the morning and came home from it in the evening . The person at Starbucks was just the person at Starbucks .Going into college I didn’t even know what a major was .

I was clueless to whole move out of the house go to college pick a major get a job for that major the job pays for life’s necessities everything cost money there are lots of bills to pay and rent and taxes and car payments and stuff. I never even thought about what happens when you graduate . All I knew about whenever someone graduates is that they’d didn’t come back to high school anymore. This made me feel really stupid and stressed out it still does because I’m like how can I have been alive all these years , have a perfectly good brain have been living on this earth and everyone know about these things and not me .

It wasn’t until my mom suggested I get an apartment close to home and I started YouTubing people movingly into their apartments. After that everything started to click realizing that there is nothing in there and people need a good job to pay for their expenses and what the expenses were. I then realized what a job was actually for.

I was wondering if anybody else has had a similar experience or ha s any idea why this happened to me . I was also addicted the computer from 8 to around 12 so that might have something to do with it.
 
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Welcome to the Forums! I hope you make new friends and enjoy your stay in the process! :)
 
Hi I recognise these past & present modes you mention...it's like not thinking outside a box into a projected future. Partly from a lack of confidence issue I think. I didn't recognise or acknowledge or trust the capabilities that I do have & potential possibilities didn't really occur to me. I never learned a work (employment) ethic till 30's or saw that work is primarily a means to an end, assuming we are able to achieve & attain that.

It's good you are aware & have found resources to help & I wish you all luck for the future
 
Hi I just recently got diagnosed with just classic autism even though Its obvious that I’m high functioning recently at 20 years old after struggling in college wit her the transition from high school to college and noticing how different, and more emotionally sensitive immature and childlike and dependent on my parents I was then everyone else my age . I had always felt different though.

My interests are Taylor Swift and animals . I also like shopping listening to music and reading and watching YouTube .

Also I’ve had something weird happen to me that is kind of hard to explains but I will try to do my best . I think it has to do with Autism but I don’t know why it has happened to me and haven’t herd of anything like it when I googled about it .

Up until I went to college I feel like my brain was stuck in child mode and I only thought in the past and present . I , for the most part , blindly did what my parents told me to do and was blind to the real adult world . Words like work and bills were only words to me . I never understood what work was why my dad went there or what he did there only that he went there in the morning and came home from it in the evening . The person at Starbucks was just the person at Starbucks .Going into college I didn’t even know what a major was .

I was clueless to whole move out of the house go to college pick a major get a job for that major the job pays for life’s necessities everything cost money there are lots of bills to pay and rent and taxes and car payments and stuff. I never even thought about what happens when you graduate . All I knew about whenever someone graduates is that they’d didn’t come back to high school anymore. This made me feel really stupid and stressed out it still does because I’m like how can I have been alive all these years , have a perfectly good brain have been living on this earth and everyone know about these things and not me .

It wasn’t until my mom suggested I get an apartment close to home and I started YouTubing people movingly into their apartments. After that everything started to click realizing that there is nothing in there and people need a good job to pay for their expenses and what the expenses were. I then realized what a job was actually for.

I was wondering if anybody else has had a similar experience or ha s any idea why this happened to me . I was also addicted the computer from 8 to around 12 so that might have something to do with it.
It's just lack of socialisation in a very specific area and it's just part of a developmental disorder.
My mother has been dead for 18 years ,I don't feel much further on than you ,all you can try to do is cope the best you can ,I think my life is slightly different because my mother didn't have support so my sister and I had to help.
 
I know just how you feel! I started working when I was seventeen, and I got a LOT of attention from coworkers because I didn't know anything about anything. It like was five years of working before I started having a basic knowledge of "reality."
 
So Fino did your parents make you work ? That how it happens for me . My parents told had me go to college even though I didn’t even know what college was and why people went there but I think that was because they just assumed I knew everything because I was old enough to know everything.
 
Hi @Swiftykitty
Welcome to the forum. I'm surprised you were diagnosed with "classic autism" in this day and age when the diagnostic criteria have moved on from such designations.
Nonetheless, you are clearly capable of very clear communication and you've got into college so in my estimation you exceed my own understanding of the designation you've been given :)
I look forward to seeing you on here in the future.
 
So Fino did your parents make you work ? That how it happens for me . My parents told had me go to college even though I didn’t even know what college was and why people went there but I think that was because they just assumed I knew everything because I was old enough to know everything.

No, they've never made me do anything. They sound like the opposite of your parents. Mine never paid all that much attention to me. But the last sentence makes your parents sound just like mine! They've always assumed I'll be fine with anything. They act like I know everything and are never worried because "they trust me" and so do nothing to help.

I started working because I had stopped going to high-school and had a lot of free time, so my therapist thought it'd be a good idea. But I didn't know what an interview was exactly and I showed up in regular clothes, but luckily it was some nice lady that thought I was cute Ha! I ended up getting fired because I couldn't keep track of money at the cash register so frequently that they thought I was stealing.
 
Hi SwiftyKitty,

Welcome to Autism Forums!

I seriously admire your honesty. You're perfectly willing to look at the areas you need to work on, which is half the battle. I can relate to what you're say and I think you summed it up very nicely. It's amazing to realize how much I don't know sometimes. Personally, I chalk it up to a matter of inherent empathy, where I find it necessary to literally do something myself in order to imagine the implications. At least you're not someone who treats others as peons out of sheer arrogance. Instead, you show self reflection and a sincere wish to understand the world as it is inhabited by others.

Hey, if you wanted to, you could apply to work at Starbucks. It's not an ideal job for someone on the spectrum, but the experience alone would shed years off your journey to learning how other people's worlds tick.
 
Hi welcome,I also love animals and shopping too but I get where you are coming from with dealing with day to day life,I’m 35 and though I see myself good with handling things like rent and bills I still at times feel like I am stuck at the age of 12,I hope this site gives you support and you probably find others who can relate to your story too.
 

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