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Featured Grandparents Insulted & Disrespected my Identity

Discussion in 'Friends, Family & Social Skills' started by Joshua Aaron, Jul 10, 2019.

  1. Joshua Aaron

    Joshua Aaron Just a Professional Weirdo w/Autism and ADHD

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    True. However, if they said no to asking my parents about it, they'd say no to looking at the papers.
     
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  2. Starfire

    Starfire Well-Known Member V.I.P Member

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    Possibly, but if that was the case the next time they said or implied that you didn’t have the diagnosis you have, if it bothers you, then you could give them a retort.

    Maybe something like “what are your neurological qualifications backing that opinion?”, “how do you know, you haven’t even read the report written by a specialist?”, “oh yeah, prove that I don’t have it, I can prove that I do!”, “there are non so blind as those that will not see”, “you can lead a horse to water, but you can’t make it drink” etc etc. Feel free to use any or all of the above or whatever you prefer.
     
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  3. china autie

    china autie friend to dogs and frogs and cats

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    I suggest maybe saying neutral things like "you may be right" rather than trying to prove something to them thst they do not want to acknowledge.

    You know you are autistic. We know you are autistic and we accept you for being you.

    In the interest of preserving whatever relationship you have with your grands, it may be better to quietly make it a non-issue.
     
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  4. Starfire

    Starfire Well-Known Member V.I.P Member

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    I agree with @china autie thats probably a more diplomatic, and more in your best interests way to go about things than I suggested.
     
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  5. Rexi

    Rexi owo uwu owo Weird&Unusual Atheist Science=<3

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    Maybe ask your parents to help or tell them about your grandparents not easily accepting it when theyre back, unless you already thought about this. You can try to shed light together, better to have backup
     
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