Hello there, i hope everyones having a good day.
I dont know how to start with this so ill just dive right in. As the title says, i've started to have major feelings for a friend of mine. She has aspergers so i thought id come here for some advice as i have also had a lot of autism evaluations (one for aspergers itself) but i was diagnosed with another mental health issue.
We met around 4 months ago online. We got talking but i didnt really like her that much. She seemed nice but i wasnt attracted to her really. But as the time went on and we got talking more and more, especially over the phone, i pretty much discovered this amazing woman. She makes me smile, she makes me laugh, i make her smile and laugh. I support her as much as i can while just being a friend. She brightens up every aspect of the day, especially when in a call.
In the past few weeks i finally admitted to myself i like her. I stopped the male ego crap of thinking she wasnt my type and im not looking for a girlfriend because i literally do not care what she looks like now. She has told me many things that if most others would talk to me about, i would be totally put off by, and i was when she told me at first, but i just dont care anymore. I cant see anything but this amazingly beautiful person i was so lucky to meet. To me, theres no one more beautiful inside or out now, Which is kind of scary for me as my usual type is good looking, blonde girls in great shape. Its scary that i seem to have found someone i care for past lust or physical attraction.I know i wouldnt admit this to her through fear of overwhelming her though.
An issue arose a few weeks back when i got too over protective, misread some things through text and i overwhelmed her. I apologised after giving her some space and she has since said it's fine and sorted, however it doesnt feel the same since. We used to text all day everyday and now its more here and there. I know shes been busy, and i have too, i just miss it so much. It does feel like shes shut down on me. She always asks how im doing and asks how my day has been, what i have planned, what i've done or been doing which according to a friend who also has aspergers is a very good sign shes still interested as many with aspergers will close off completely. Maybe im just panicking because we've both been busy lately, me with work and her with her new friends. I just cant tell because its been 8 years since i felt this way about someone.
We were getting on great i thought. I didnt want to tell her how i felt through fear of our friendship being ruined. She has also stated before she wasnt interested in a relationship because of uni. So i dont really want to tell her, add pressure to her or potentially push her away even further. I just dont know where to go now. My friend says just have patience and what we had before will come back slowly as after i overwhelmed her and said something stupid shes just regaining her trust in me again. I just dont know. Because i dont feel this way for people very often (literally twice in 10 years and my first didnt lead to a relationship) i just feel so lost.
She is truly the most magical person you could ever meet. Not a bad bone in her body. She hates being mean or rude to anyone though she has been slightly manipulative with me but i was also being a jerk that day. She did apologise after for it.
I dont know where to go from here and i think i just need some guidance. In my teens i was so confident, so brash, so arrogant, i had girls liking me a lot but since i was in an abusive relationship amongst other things, i have no idea how to do this anymore. My timing is usually so poor. This for once felt like i was getting it right and to see us hit a brick wall is hard. She doesnt act that bothered by it, i dont know if she is. I just miss what we had so much. To go from texting almost all day everyday about everything. Her trying to carry conversations on even when they we're basically dead which i found so amazingly cute. Popping up just to say hello with no real conversation. Im welling up just remembering this which was only 2-3 weeks ago.
Any advice on where to go from here would be grand. I feel so lost and miss the way we used to talk or text each other.
I dont know how to start with this so ill just dive right in. As the title says, i've started to have major feelings for a friend of mine. She has aspergers so i thought id come here for some advice as i have also had a lot of autism evaluations (one for aspergers itself) but i was diagnosed with another mental health issue.
We met around 4 months ago online. We got talking but i didnt really like her that much. She seemed nice but i wasnt attracted to her really. But as the time went on and we got talking more and more, especially over the phone, i pretty much discovered this amazing woman. She makes me smile, she makes me laugh, i make her smile and laugh. I support her as much as i can while just being a friend. She brightens up every aspect of the day, especially when in a call.
In the past few weeks i finally admitted to myself i like her. I stopped the male ego crap of thinking she wasnt my type and im not looking for a girlfriend because i literally do not care what she looks like now. She has told me many things that if most others would talk to me about, i would be totally put off by, and i was when she told me at first, but i just dont care anymore. I cant see anything but this amazingly beautiful person i was so lucky to meet. To me, theres no one more beautiful inside or out now, Which is kind of scary for me as my usual type is good looking, blonde girls in great shape. Its scary that i seem to have found someone i care for past lust or physical attraction.I know i wouldnt admit this to her through fear of overwhelming her though.
An issue arose a few weeks back when i got too over protective, misread some things through text and i overwhelmed her. I apologised after giving her some space and she has since said it's fine and sorted, however it doesnt feel the same since. We used to text all day everyday and now its more here and there. I know shes been busy, and i have too, i just miss it so much. It does feel like shes shut down on me. She always asks how im doing and asks how my day has been, what i have planned, what i've done or been doing which according to a friend who also has aspergers is a very good sign shes still interested as many with aspergers will close off completely. Maybe im just panicking because we've both been busy lately, me with work and her with her new friends. I just cant tell because its been 8 years since i felt this way about someone.
We were getting on great i thought. I didnt want to tell her how i felt through fear of our friendship being ruined. She has also stated before she wasnt interested in a relationship because of uni. So i dont really want to tell her, add pressure to her or potentially push her away even further. I just dont know where to go now. My friend says just have patience and what we had before will come back slowly as after i overwhelmed her and said something stupid shes just regaining her trust in me again. I just dont know. Because i dont feel this way for people very often (literally twice in 10 years and my first didnt lead to a relationship) i just feel so lost.
She is truly the most magical person you could ever meet. Not a bad bone in her body. She hates being mean or rude to anyone though she has been slightly manipulative with me but i was also being a jerk that day. She did apologise after for it.
I dont know where to go from here and i think i just need some guidance. In my teens i was so confident, so brash, so arrogant, i had girls liking me a lot but since i was in an abusive relationship amongst other things, i have no idea how to do this anymore. My timing is usually so poor. This for once felt like i was getting it right and to see us hit a brick wall is hard. She doesnt act that bothered by it, i dont know if she is. I just miss what we had so much. To go from texting almost all day everyday about everything. Her trying to carry conversations on even when they we're basically dead which i found so amazingly cute. Popping up just to say hello with no real conversation. Im welling up just remembering this which was only 2-3 weeks ago.
Any advice on where to go from here would be grand. I feel so lost and miss the way we used to talk or text each other.