Face awareness

[the_tortoise]

People often think I am angry when I am really only thinking.

I get this, too...I actually think even NTs typical get this sometimes...

My guess is it's because of two things:

(1) deep thought or concentration sometimes involves sort of frowny furrowed eyebrows, even if just a tiny tiny little bit...

(2) sometimes when thinking your face is actually blank -- but people seem to guess the worst thing they can think of, to err on the side of caution/danger avoidance when a face or voice or any nonverbal aspect of a person is unreadable

 

[Jonn]

I also think I go very blank in overload states...in the space between early overload and complete meltdown. And I spend a lot of my life in overload state.

This has happened to me a lot in the last few years.
Maybe I am just more aware of it these days?

 

[Jonn]

? (joke? confused)

[edit: confused if you actually thought I was female, or are joking, or what?

and why you would think I am female...?

and if you just randomly presumed for some reason, then double checked (as i have for gender both ways with people on here) and discovered you were wrong....why you wouldn't just edit it out?

this is bothersomely weird to me...2 reasons:

1. I grew up in an era and community where, as a boy, being seen as anything but embodying the epitome of stereotypical masculinity was an insult and its very very hard to erase that from my brain

2. I'm touchy about being presumed to be or equated with anything I'm not (pick a thing - intelligence, motor/physical skills, interests, age, sexuality, gender, culture, nationality, political ideology, socioeconomic class, level of education, favorite ice cream or preferred temperature of drinking water (<<joke...usually)...if you get it wrong and don't immediately and fully course-correct and there is any hint of emphasizing or arguing your misperception has actual validity, I will probably be at least slightly bothered.)

I truly see nothing wrong with being female (or male, or neither) but it more often than not bothers me when I am misperceived -- especially when it happens a lot of times in a short period of time in random contexts and I don't understand why or how in any of them.]

Erm...
"You and me both, 'sister'" is a meme from The Big Bang Theory.
It was a joke.

 

[Jonn]

[edit: confused if you actually thought I was female, or are joking, or what?

No.
I actually checked your gender on your profile page before I posted.
THAT was the joke.

 

[Ken]

? (joke? confused)

[edit: confused if you actually thought I was female, or are joking, or what?

and why you would think I am female...?

and if you just randomly presumed for some reason, then double checked (as i have for gender both ways with people on here) and discovered you were wrong....why you wouldn't just edit it out?

this is bothersomely weird to me...2 reasons:

1. I grew up in an era and community where, as a boy, being seen as anything but embodying the epitome of stereotypical masculinity was an insult and its very very hard to erase that from my brain

2. I'm touchy about being presumed to be or equated with anything I'm not (pick a thing - intelligence, motor/physical skills, interests, age, sexuality, gender, culture, nationality, political ideology, socioeconomic class, level of education, favorite ice cream or preferred temperature of drinking water (<<joke...usually)...if you get it wrong and don't immediately and fully course-correct and there is any hint of emphasizing or arguing your misperception has actual validity, I will probably be at least slightly bothered.)

I truly see nothing wrong with being female (or male, or neither) but it more often than not bothers me when I am misperceived -- especially when it happens a lot of times in a short period of time in random contexts and I don't understand why or how in any of them.]

Yes, stereotyping, regardless of subject, is very upsetting for me. Regardless if I am being stereotyped or if I see anyone else stereotyped, it affects me deeply.