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Expectations (gone wrong)

Sherlock77

Sherlock77

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My day, my week, tough slogging at work... Also tonight had plans to (hopefully) get together with a good friend during the evening, said we would meet at a music jam, and then take it from there... Last text I received, something about a delayed supper at home with his wife, this was one hour and change before the jam started... I kept watching the door, constantly, he didn't make it out, I was tense all night... I suspect he just got tied up at home with maybe something else, and I do respect his loyalty to his family, he's just a very hard person to get together with and I wish I could spend more time with him, which doesn't happen much, apparently tonight included... So I went home with my tail tucked between my legs, feeling a little depressed, stopped for some comfort food (my favourite pizza slice at a local place)

And also trying to do my annual Remembrance Day portraits of random people I meet wearing poppies, I'm dodging weather this year, lots of cold wintery weather getting in the way of making any progress, I have to make lots (and lots more) progress in one day tomorrow, trying to get ready for that while feeling tired... Did a couple of them tonight, one lady who said a categorical "no", something like "I definitely do not consent to letting me take a portrait", the way she said it was extremely negative in my perception, like completely shutting me down... I walked away feeling very discouraged

I know I just have to get out there and do it, somehow, it's going to be a very long day though, and I just feel discouraged right now with everything crappy going on around me...
 
Sorry you missed out on your friend's get together but glad to see you didn't personalize his being unable to get there.
 
Maybe the lady saying no to the portrait felt self-conscience for some reason. There are so many people posting degrading pictures of others on the internet, I'd say it's making more and more people shy of having their pictures taken.
We all run into those days, don't let it overtake that adventurous and creative spirit of yours.
 
People sometimes don't realise the tone of voice they use, l had somebody who would talk to me about that. I had no idea they were so sensitive to this. Yet l can be the same way. Go figure.
 
Social disappointments do seem to cut deep with so many of us. They certainly do with me as well.

I realize that they can happen at any time for just about any reason, but it doesn't dull the pain either. :oops:

As for those who refuse to give consent to your portrait photography, well...that's always a definite possibility. No matter how well you capture the image of a person and a particular moment. But sometimes talent like yours just isn't enough to persuade some folks no matter what their reasoning may be.
 
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Social disappointment hurts me more than it should. I don’t often plan a get together with friends, but when I do, and they cancel at the last minute, I become incredibly upset and disappointed. I haven’t seen my best friend for three months and she complains about this a lot, yet when we make plans, she often cancels them, goes incommunicado or is so incredibly late (like over an hour) that I call things off. This makes me sad and angry.

As for people refusing to be a part of photos and videos, I get that the rejection hurts, but it’s most likely not a personal thing and you shouldn’t take it that way. I’ve been interviewing acquaintances for a project and a lot of them don’t want to cooperate because they are uncomfortable with cameras.
 
Just Facebook messaging with a lady I photographed today for the project, perhaps explains it, and I do understand that it might be a strange request... And, just for the record, I never try that hard to convince people...

"I was a bit skeptical at first letting you take my picture lol but all good ! My grandfather fought in the war . He lost both his legs and died a few months after I was born ."
 
Sorry you had to go through that Sherlock.

I feel really bad that a lot of times I'm the one bailing on friends, but I just get super stressed out and can't handle going out sometimes. I still haven't told them I have autism, haven't seen them in months, and have no idea how any of that would go.
 
Pats said:
Maybe the lady saying no to the portrait felt self-conscience for some reason. There are so many people posting degrading pictures of others on the internet, I'd say it's making more and more people shy of having their pictures taken.
We all run into those days, don't let it overtake that adventurous and creative spirit of yours.
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I would feel very uncomfortable if someone asked to take a picture of me or if I noticed a stranger doing it randomly. I don't even like when my family takes pictures of me.
 
ghostie said:
I would feel very uncomfortable if someone asked to take a picture of me or if I noticed a stranger doing it randomly. I don't even like when my family takes pictures of me.
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I do know what you mean, when I go out to do street photography I try to do it with respect... Just be aware, that whenever you're in public you could be photographed, even simply by a tourist taking photos of where they visited...
 
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