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excuse me?

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wadorama

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informing people of my perceived neuro sitch feels like asking them to excuse me for it. like i’m looking for a special break that norms aren’t entitled to, just to help me pave my own road smoother. i have read accounts of some brave folks here that have “outed” their condition to others with varying degrees of acceptance. and i get the stigma of the label. but to those that still struggle with sharing what you know (or think you know) about yourselves with others that might help with it, will you? why or why not? and if you have already done so, do you recommend it or regret it? all input welcome, and thanks.
 
I have always hid it from the public. I feel it better to be an unknown then catagorized with a label. Particularly since it has a negative stigma attached by many. I let my wife and family know at varied stages after I figured it out.
 
Tom said:
I have always hid it from the public. I feel it better to be an unknown then catagorized with a label. Particularly since it has a negative stigma attached by many. I let my wife and family know at varied stages after I figured it out.
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hid it too, even before i suspected what it was. kinda why i'm askin now. and...umm...nice hat! ;o)
 
Once your "out" just out perform others...

Laugh at the screw ups (misunderstandings), and honestly its sort of fun to look at someone and bluntly tell them to go to hell without saying a word... and then blame ASD for it. Or let your logic make someone look like a total fool and thank ASD for it... (mostly kidding with you - sort of)

Never let it be a crutch or a license for pity. It has its advantages and disadvantages.

If there was a "goal" I have for ASD... it is to overcome the stigma, and be seen for who I am and not some stupid label that others need so bad to paste all over stuff...

So for me to be needy, or be a jerk, or not care what I say, or how I act, is to disrespect myself and my goal...

I seek out ways to use it to my advantage, but to not take advantage of, or become a label I secretly mostly detest.
 
I only tell people on a need-to-know basis, as a lot of stereotypes and preconceptions exist about the condition and I don't like to be prejudged.
 
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