For a long time I believed the greatest fairness is a meritocracy, which would be equality
It would only be very very limited equality in terms of what outcome deserves reward...while completely ignoring that people do not actually have equal opportunity or abilities...if you take into account
all of reality, meritocracy in isolation does not create equality for anyone, it just reinforces inequality by allowing continuation of the status quo in which those who already have socioeconomic, developmental, health, physical, etc advandatges by pure dumb luck easily get ahead or at least stay just as well off, while those who are profoundly disadvantaged by the same
pure dumn luck, and more often than not despite how hard they work (usually much harder than those who face fewer socioeconomic and purely sociological disadvantages and obstacles alone -- nevermind all the differences in human ability and physical health and capacity that are sometimes natural but often imposed by circumstance, take these last "nevermind" variables set to "disadvantage" away for the sake of argument and just seeing my point -- pretend they are actually equal so they are "controlled for") they just stay where they are -- or fall farther behind. Is it "equality" for someone born very poor, without access to adequate nutrition, education, shelter, safety, transportation, freedom from
disriminatory treatment and othering based on gender/sex or race or class etc and who is an Einstein-type genius with an innovate mind and generous spirit, unfailing work ethic etc will likely never get s chance, never have the means, to do anything with his talents and never develop his skills to the point he could if by chance he had been born with different skills color or into a higher socioeconomic class?
True some people are sociopaths...but they are a minority, and many (not all, I'm not a believer in utopia, but I think it's good and necessary to try to get as close as you can and maintain that proximity as best you can -- doing nothing guarantees failure) of them would never become career criminals (poor or wealthy, either way) if they had better opportunities and way less exposure to trauma and corruption in childhood...monsters are not born, they are made. It is not a coincidence that minorities in any society (visible minorities, those with cognitive and developmental disabilities, mental health disabilities, survivors of extreme abuse and violence in combination with marginalization and inescapable oppression) are consistently over-represented in criminal justic systems -- it's not because being any of the things they naturally are predisposes them to criminal behaviour, it's that hurt and desperate people trained to behave badly are more likely to be shaped in a way that amounts to "badly broken" by their circumstances....
Equity is not a pipe dream, and it's a lot easier to achieve than people think. The will just has to be there. There have been very successful social experiments with minimum income programs in Canada and elsewhere, for example; And affirmative action programs, when sustained, can actually produce positive change and create sustained decreases in discrimination and oppression of minority populations....it just takes a depressingly long time.
But "takes a long time" is a far cry from "impossible" and the word "false" is nonsensical in context and doesn't apply...examples of equity in action exist all over the world, even if examples of equality don't ...again both these words are rough METAPHORS being applied to very complex sets of things and aspects of human existence ..
My personal opinion: "excruciatingly difficult and not at all guaranteed to ever happen -- let alone be sustained -- anywhere" -- those words absolutely
do apply....
But again, if you don't try, if you prematurely close your mind and refuse to think about something just because it's hard, then you guarantee failure -- and refusal to try is not the same thing as "impossible"...and in democratic human societies, every single person is responsible for their own decisions to try or not try. Not saying one person can change everything (that is actually
way more nonsensical than saying "equity is false"), but that demoncracies are inherently collectivist, so each person does have influence, however microscopic it may be...