Only when eating at restaurant.
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I just plain wont interact with or use a service that requires tipping, period.
I'm like, it aint my job to pay your freaking employees. I buy the thing, you give me the thing I bought, and if you cant handle all the other parts yourself, you shouldnt be running anything at all. Get out of business and pick up that janitor bucket over at the local fast food place, maybe learn some important lessons there, like how to not suck.
And of course, being in the US, I know most owners of any business type where tips are a thing, they simply WONT pay their employees fairly, so... I aint gonna use their junk.
It's been a very long time since I was in the work force, but I have worked at such places, and one of the most irritating moments ever was discovering that even the freaking tips I was directly given by people STILL werent really mine. The stupid company of stupidness tried to take a percentage of even that. I dont remember which company, they were all pretty stupid.
Buncha greedy morons, I tell ya.
I can buy freaking crackers at the store instead, thank you very much.
I'm like, it aint my job to pay your freaking employees. I buy the thing, you give me the thing I bought, and if you cant handle all the other parts yourself, you shouldnt be running anything at all. Get out of business and pick up that janitor bucket over at the local fast food place, maybe learn some important lessons there, like how to not suck.
And of course, being in the US, I know most owners of any business type where tips are a thing, they simply WONT pay their employees fairly, so... I aint gonna use their junk.
It's been a very long time since I was in the work force, but I have worked at such places, and one of the most irritating moments ever was discovering that even the freaking tips I was directly given by people STILL werent really mine. The stupid company of stupidness tried to take a percentage of even that. I dont remember which company, they were all pretty stupid.
Buncha greedy morons, I tell ya.
I can buy freaking crackers at the store instead, thank you very much.
This thread makes me sad.
It is not the individual waitperson’s fault they are not well paid. So many people work at substandard pay in the US. I can’t see not tipping because the company doesn’t pay well.
I now live on a fixed income and need to take care with spending. But if I’m in a sit down restaurant I will leave a 15-20% tip. And I will round up.
That waitstaff might be living in her car, or caring for small children, or both.
The way I know our economy is bad - it used to be a girl’s job to waitress. Now it includes women and men.
It is not the individual waitperson’s fault they are not well paid. So many people work at substandard pay in the US. I can’t see not tipping because the company doesn’t pay well.
I now live on a fixed income and need to take care with spending. But if I’m in a sit down restaurant I will leave a 15-20% tip. And I will round up.
That waitstaff might be living in her car, or caring for small children, or both.
The way I know our economy is bad - it used to be a girl’s job to waitress. Now it includes women and men.
It started during the Covid pandemic because few people were physically eating in restaurants and pickup/takeout became the norm. I think Americans felt they needed to help wait staff who no longer could earn tips the conventional way. People are not okay with it now that the pandemic is over. It is an ongoing point of contention, and most customers do not tip before they receive their food. During the pandemic, my husband and I tipped very generously when we picked up takeout food because, otherwise, those servers would have really suffered from lack of income from gratuities they normally got from in-restaurant food service.
In the US, tipping is common for jobs that require personal service to specific customers. Such as services provided in restaurants, hairdressers, etc. that deal directly and personally with customers. Field workers, street cleaners and game designers are not providing personal services to specific customers.
I only tip in restaurant expecting good service, have never tipped for haircut. cut it right or I will not come back.
When I was 20 there was a great little Italian restaurant near where I lived that I went to often with my girlfriend. The waiter there was amazing, you never noticed he was there but glasses kept refilling and empty plates vanished on their own. The thought of tipping him never even entered my mind and wouldn't have entered his either, it just wasn't a part of our culture. I did have a couple of conversations with him though and told him I found the service nothing short of amazing. He told me he was training for his Silver Service.
Then one evening I took my girlfriend there and the place was almost empty. The food was just as good as always but it was the owner of the place that was serving us. She was a perfectly good waitress but didn't come close to the other waiter. Naturally as I'm settling the bill she asked me how the meal was and I told her it was as delightful as always.
Then just to make conversation I asked what happened to the young waiter. She said he left because he wanted more money. I said "That's a shame, he was worth it.". She snapped at me "I know that now, don't I!".
That's the way our society always was. We saw tipping in American movies and we saw it as just rich people showing off how rich they are by rubbing worker's noses in it. The closest we ever came to tipping is when we enjoyed a barman's company and we'd by him a drink to encourage him to stop and talk a bit more, but that ended with new workplace relations laws and they're not allowed to drink on the job any more.
Then one evening I took my girlfriend there and the place was almost empty. The food was just as good as always but it was the owner of the place that was serving us. She was a perfectly good waitress but didn't come close to the other waiter. Naturally as I'm settling the bill she asked me how the meal was and I told her it was as delightful as always.
Then just to make conversation I asked what happened to the young waiter. She said he left because he wanted more money. I said "That's a shame, he was worth it.". She snapped at me "I know that now, don't I!".
That's the way our society always was. We saw tipping in American movies and we saw it as just rich people showing off how rich they are by rubbing worker's noses in it. The closest we ever came to tipping is when we enjoyed a barman's company and we'd by him a drink to encourage him to stop and talk a bit more, but that ended with new workplace relations laws and they're not allowed to drink on the job any more.
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