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Do you have any inappropriate "crushes"?

Mr Allen

Mr Allen

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I kind of used to, until recently I had a thing for the HOT, gorgeous Barmaid in our local, Sam, but she had a Boyfriend and is at least 2 years my senior, still would though, she rocked that black dress she wore to work!

Sadly she retired a few weeks back, I never declared my love so she didn't leave on my account.

So anyway, do you fancy anyone, male or female that you know you shouldn't really?
 
My former Martial Arts instructor...some days when it was just him and me training, I REALLY couldn't concentrate on what I was doing, too busy controlling other inappropriate impulses. He turned out to be a narcissistic, abusive a-hole, but there are still times I txt him just to say hi. I trained with him for 5 years with all that going on, and never told him how I felt...
 
Too many to list. And I've been in a long and painful process of dealing with the issues surrounding this aspect of my personality.

I wish it could be a lighthearted conversation, that seems to be how others talk about it. But for me it has always been an agonizing part of being in social situations. And not once have I been able to turn a crush on someone, even appropriate ones, into any sort of relationship. even friendship.
 
There used to be this woman at my old Karate class called Marie, she was quite big, well not fat just, you know, well rounded, she was a black belt and I was a blue belt, I think she was married as well, and there was this other girl who was also about the same rank as me but she was only about 17, she was really nice but it wouldn't have been appropriate to like her in that way, I was loads too old for her even then.
 
Ya know, my one and only real boyfriend, the one I almost married (he killed himself before we could figure it out), was over 30+ years my senior...may not have been and appropriate relationship, but I wouldn't know what one was AT ALL if not for him...
 
Also, one of my female carers, Sandy, she's just turned 24 back in August and I'm 40, but we went to the Gym once and I'd always known I liked her as she's quite pretty and feisty (well some would say bossy but let's not eh?) so this one day I opened up and told her I loved her, she didn't run for the Hills fortunately lol. She's now on Maternity leave as she had a little boy just after her birthday (and no, it's not mine, chance'd be nice though).

Another female carer I've always liked is Cara, but again even if I knew her under different circumstances I'd still be loads too old for her, she's just turned 20 back in July, and she's also on Maternity leave, due just before Christmas (and again, it ain't mine).
 
"Maternity leave" doesn't sound promising... o_O

Even being married, I still get crushes now and then. (I do not pursue them, however.) They are usually just a chemical reaction that, I believe, is heightened by our sensory issues.
 
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