Still wanting opinions on this thread? I'm not sure I qualify as Aspie. Pretty sure I am not exactly normal, though? Is that a possibility?
am a a male. I have a very high sex drive. I however, have to be with someone I have feelings for, or I have none.
I'm a lady with normal drive. I agree: only with someone I have feelings for!!...
This is a good question:
Are people with Aspergers less likely to follow their primal urge to procreate in favour of abstinence and doing other things with their time.
YES. I agree. (not sure I qualify as Aspie though)
There may be some past father issues or short term parter an obsessive Borderline Personality Disorder sufferer still lingering sometimes to haunt my subconscious. DECADES of chosen CELIBACY ..... I would not rather not take care of my own lusty "needs"..... Yes, I agree with the poster who said this::: Sex...It IS very very very therapeutic!!! it can become addictive!!! I have seen a (not Aspie, not NT) friend's brain that is terrible, irritable, angry, combative without his sex "fix"!!!! I am surprised that more people not observing this? sex=therapy for some,very true, I think..... Personally, I'd rather participate in other activities until the perfect marriage opportunity comes along!!! I am not sure how many normal people choose true celibacy for that long. Lust was almost something to be happily conquered like Ghandi. It bothers me most as a young 19 and ... NOW NOW at that "certain age" , ah, I'm , ah, 37..... Oh, gosh, help me, lust issues, heh. But there is this guy that might like me. He might be worth considering. HE might have Autism? I am visiting here, curious to learn of some Aspie traits.....
valid point....
It seems like the question you should be asking is whether or not aspies feel obliged to make love, rather than the simple the act of sex.
Everyone needs to love and be loved to some extent, but not everyone feels that this needs to be provided through sexual intercourse.
I dream of women at night.... I am bisexual... I lust for and love this one lady friend of mine.... perhaps, the deeply religious could say that this lesbian "sin" is misplaced friendship love? That I never had a long term relationship with men? or never fully matured mentally? Or something from my "lonely" childhood for never having experienced a deep friendship with a female (besides my awesome best friend sister, which does NOT count in that way.) I am not having sex with the lady friend but I still love her, on some level. She is single, She seems like she might be open to the idea actually. but She has these wild kids, I am not sure there is a long term future together. Especially, since, technically, lesbians can not marry in a "forever" kind of way. I still have this wonderful romantic notion of being married forever to this gentleman prince fairy tale? I learned that dating disappoints me. It is annoying. Isn't one good guy as good as any other? why bother getting to know them? Celibacy or... Marriage might be an option. If the man did not initiate dating or sex, I'm pretty sure I would not have any...... Yes, Sex seems rather base needs, animalistic. (Am I a bad person for saying that? Maybe I have mental health issues? maybe I was abused somehow?)
I understand the poster with the sensory sensitivities! When I finally find the right person, I am already overstimulated by fantasies in my mind. I almost wish... probably not logical to some (please let me know.)... but.... if someone recommends a good guy (with police background check or really decent references? like arranged marriage by parents? a best friend's brother? or something?)....a qualified good guy..... Can't we just have marriage and sex and talk later? The LAST thing I need is foreplay. Maybe later in the relationship?
So, Craig said, You say people need love. not always provided by sex? How do people show love? or be loved? does that equal hugs or what are we talking about? I am curious? do Aspies never cuddle? I'm not a hugger, in general.... but.... dating, is different? right? maybe I should maybe I want or need hugs? Do women want hugs after intimacy? and or before? I don't know.
or like deep conversations? flowers? little gifts? this shows love/interest?
I do apologise if this was too long! I tend to ramble! I am new here! I have not learned how all the etiquette yet. Please forgive me. Thank you for your help!