Hi! I am new, so I am not sure if this is the right topic to post this.
I am not diagnosed with autism but I am quite sure I have it. Recently got my dream job and it is now in jeopardy because of my issues in dealing with social situations.
Dealing with people everyday in the office eroded all my reserves, and I ended into some heated discussions with team members and I've been told I am rude, I am aggressive, why are you smiling now (I didn't realize I was smiling) - I am sure you all are familiar with that.
Now we are dealing with a complex situation between me and one of my co-workers, it is not my fault and the boss is on my side, but he also mentioned that we need to address my issues with communication, because they don't help my cause.
I agree with him, and I appreciate the support. This is a company that welcomes different ways of being, I am in a creative role so me being weird is not an issue.
However, now I feel like I failed again at being normal and I have no clue what I did wrong, either.
I am now in the waiting list to be evaluated for autism - I am over 40 so it has been a long wait already - and hopefully have the right answer and access to the right support.
I told my boss I am open to work on my issues, and I know I have them, but I would like to be able to say "this is why I am different". I am not rude, or aggressive, or crazy, I am just exhausted the whole time because I am speaking a foreign language that I never really learned.
Do you think there is any hope that with the right tools (therapy, coaching, whatever) one can be able to function socially on the long term? I can function socially on a general level but g
find hard to be alert the whole time for social clues I am missing.
I really love this job for many reasons and I don't want to lose it.
Thanks for listening.
Leni
I am not diagnosed with autism but I am quite sure I have it. Recently got my dream job and it is now in jeopardy because of my issues in dealing with social situations.
Dealing with people everyday in the office eroded all my reserves, and I ended into some heated discussions with team members and I've been told I am rude, I am aggressive, why are you smiling now (I didn't realize I was smiling) - I am sure you all are familiar with that.
Now we are dealing with a complex situation between me and one of my co-workers, it is not my fault and the boss is on my side, but he also mentioned that we need to address my issues with communication, because they don't help my cause.
I agree with him, and I appreciate the support. This is a company that welcomes different ways of being, I am in a creative role so me being weird is not an issue.
However, now I feel like I failed again at being normal and I have no clue what I did wrong, either.
I am now in the waiting list to be evaluated for autism - I am over 40 so it has been a long wait already - and hopefully have the right answer and access to the right support.
I told my boss I am open to work on my issues, and I know I have them, but I would like to be able to say "this is why I am different". I am not rude, or aggressive, or crazy, I am just exhausted the whole time because I am speaking a foreign language that I never really learned.
Do you think there is any hope that with the right tools (therapy, coaching, whatever) one can be able to function socially on the long term? I can function socially on a general level but g
find hard to be alert the whole time for social clues I am missing.
I really love this job for many reasons and I don't want to lose it.
Thanks for listening.
Leni