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Different personalities

DogwoodTree

DogwoodTree

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Do you have a different personality when you're at home than you do when you're out around other people?

Aside from the mood swings, I feel a lot more like a "normal" person when I'm at home. I even start to question if all of this is real, if maybe I'm really pretty "NT" after all and it was all just my imagination. But then I get out around people, and everything comes crashing down in on me again. I'm stuck in that cage again. Or I go into acting mode and nothing feels real. Does this make any sense?
 
Yes i agree. I feel the most normal at home, even if i'm hiding up in my room 'recharging' 99% of the time. Hell i even bring meals up there whenever i get the chance. I start to doubt if i really could be an aspie until i get around people. But then the moment i'm back at my part time job as a cashier, no doubt remains. I do the most acting at my part time job, trying to feign being a normal cashier. Even then i end up crashing a lot, either shutting down or distressed beyond belief. I'm a totally different person at home compared to when i'm at my part time job. Same can be said for my full time babysitting job, actually. Its like i have a different personality, a different act, for each place/job that's not fully a deliberate act so much as me just trying to pass for normal, trying to please whoever i'm around.
 
It does make me wonder what it would be like to be around an Aspie on a normal basis. If my comfort level (socially speaking) would be considerably higher.
 
I don't know if this counts, but around my family and people that I know well, I'm usually quite fluent in what I have to say but still shy and introverted. However, with people that I rarely interact with, I'm very shy and more withdrawn, and my autistic traits become more obvious to those around me. I don't speak as fluently or sometimes don't talk at all and just stim, and it's almost as if I've become an entirely different person.
 
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Yes, I definitely have two personalities. A real one, and one for show. Home is my comfort zone, and when I'm at my friend's house where we have our business office. Outside of those two places, I don the mask of the secondary personality. This personality has many dimensions and changes as needed for whatever situation I'm in. Usually, I'm not concerned with being authentic when I'm out in public. I'm only concerned with getting through the experience and getting home.
 
I have lots of masks, it's how I learnt to survive in the world.

At home it is just me, laid bare, no spectators.

I should have been an actor :)
 
Yes, I have lots of masks. Though I'm able to engage with strangers, only a handful of people have seen what I'm truely like.
 
Really different because people outside these walls wouldn't understand me so I have to act being as normal as possible.
 
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