I feel so out of place everywhere I go. I feel so stupid in social situations. I cant understand ppl and they dont understand me. Why must there be so much confusion? conversation and comprehension should be easy, but why have I always struggled? I feel I have to try 10x hard as anybody else to complete tasks.
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Depressed, socially anxious, potential aspie with a possibility of a learning disability
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The Penguin
Chilly Willy The Penguin
Conversations can be very complex and hard for people to master including myself. I do have a language based learning disability and it does take me extra time to do task when I was in school and on the job. One employer was accommodating until they decided they don't want to anymore and let me go. I did took this employer to human rights. I got lucky to find an organization to get an updated assessment on my learning disability for free when I was an adult. Having this done allow me to have access to extra services for help with employment and other needs.
I also found someone that will do an Aspergers assessment for free. I don't know if the same thing exist in your area but it took me a lot of searching to find it. I had to contact many organizations to find free services. But don't feel alone. Many people in the world struggle like us.
I also found someone that will do an Aspergers assessment for free. I don't know if the same thing exist in your area but it took me a lot of searching to find it. I had to contact many organizations to find free services. But don't feel alone. Many people in the world struggle like us.
I'm sorry that you feel this way, I can certainly relate to it. I also find social situations very difficult and have trouble with expressing myself so that others can understand what I'm saying, even on subject I know a great deal about. It's very frustrating!
If you suspect you have a learning disability then it would probably benefit you if you got a diagnosis, even if it is just understanding why you struggle, helping you feel better about yourself and possibly develop better coping strategies. I was diagnosed with dyslexia when I was 18 and it has greatly helped me over the years, both with disability support and simply understanding why my reading and writing is slow even though my mind works very quickly. Simply being able to think "don't get frustrated, it's not you fault" makes things much easier.
I hope these forums are helpful for you!
If you suspect you have a learning disability then it would probably benefit you if you got a diagnosis, even if it is just understanding why you struggle, helping you feel better about yourself and possibly develop better coping strategies. I was diagnosed with dyslexia when I was 18 and it has greatly helped me over the years, both with disability support and simply understanding why my reading and writing is slow even though my mind works very quickly. Simply being able to think "don't get frustrated, it's not you fault" makes things much easier.
I hope these forums are helpful for you!
Persevero
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I talked with my psychologist over similar issues. She suggested something that has worked, more or less:
In social situations it's okay to just "hang out" and not do much of the talking. Pay attention to what's being said and how people respond to it. Ask yourself later what the conversation was about, maybe it was just hard to participate because it didn't interest you at all.
In social situations it's okay to just "hang out" and not do much of the talking. Pay attention to what's being said and how people respond to it. Ask yourself later what the conversation was about, maybe it was just hard to participate because it didn't interest you at all.
The Penguin
Chilly Willy The Penguin
It did sucked but it might be possible later today or Friday things will be better in my life. I hope you reach that day too. Also hope you have energy to fight battles for people don't treat you right in the future. If I never thought my battles, I would be struggling more in life.
How are things getting better?
Thank you for your response it really helped. Nd yes I am inbestigating this issue with my therapist at uni as well as the aspergers thought
The Penguin
Chilly Willy The Penguin
Well the business center said they now accept me in the business program since I found another organization to give accommodations. The final phase is having the government to approve which I find out today or tomorrow.
Ive been hanging out and paying attention saying nothing. My whole life. I plainly dont know how to converse. There is an interest though
If there are any aspie conferences, workshops, or groups you can join, that might be a good way to find a support system and people you can relate too. You will feel safer to try your hand at communication in this type of environment moreso first if those are options for you.
I tried to look for some, unfortunately there is none. Except for one but its strictly for guys
I tried to look for some, unfortunately there is none. Except for one but its strictly for guys
Maybe since there's nothing else you can go to, or at least not right now, you should ask the person running that guys only group if you can join anyway because you are looking for something, and you don't know where else you can go. As a result, if there are other places you don't know about, they may have suggestions for you to try, or they may let you in their circle anyway. Sounds like it's worth the risk.
Haha I would never do that. That would be so horrible for me. Like my anxiety definitely interferes here
hmm, maybe you could try writing your request. If you want, instead of asking to join the group at all, ask for resources only in a letter may be? Or, is there a friend who can help you out maybe? (Don't just ask the friend, but offer cookies or something when you ask too 
) Food always helps!!
) Food always helps!!Idk ill think bout ithmm, maybe you could try writing your request. If you want, instead of asking to join the group at all, ask for resources only in a letter may be? Or, is there a friend who can help you out maybe? (Don't just ask the friend, but offer cookies or something when you ask too
haha I can understand why that would be difficult for you, it's a great suggestion but my anxiety would definitely not allow me to do so (I practically recoiled in horror from the idea
) Communicating through email definitely reduces my anxiety in this sort of situation. If you can't cope with asking to join in, as well as asking for resources you could also ask if there are any similar workshops for women available, it might spur them to set one up if they know that there is demand.There are others with Asperger's and learning disabilities? Wow. AS is always so stereotyped as having high IQ and everything. I have a barely normal IQ and a learning disability, as well as AS and other things.
I always feel so dumb around others with AS. I do only know one other with AS. He is younger than I am and male, so the AS shows up differently than it does in me.
But still I always feel dumb when people talk about people with AS usually having high IQs.
I always feel so dumb around others with AS. I do only know one other with AS. He is younger than I am and male, so the AS shows up differently than it does in me.
But still I always feel dumb when people talk about people with AS usually having high IQs.
The Penguin
Chilly Willy The Penguin
I don't think comparisons are fair as you always find people are different. I think it more important once you have your assessment and learn what you have is how you manage your life with it.
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