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Could use some advice.

Wolfsage

In training to be Wolf King.
So I've been told that having someone around to support you through your older years is a good idea. Through marriage for context. Of course I've heard the same thing about having kids. Which I do not plan to have. I don't agree with this idea. Given my experience s have said otherwise. And the fact I'm more comfortable alone. But I also see the benefits to it. And there are days where I think I would like to have it. Just not here not in this life. I would love them to the day I died. But it's that same love that tells me I shouldn't for "reasons". Good reasons I can't deny.
 
So I've been told that having someone around to support you threw your older years is a good idea. Threw marriage for context. Of course I've heard the same thing about having kids. Which I do not plan to have. I don't agree with this idea. Given my experience s have said otherwise. And the fact I'm more comfortable alone. But I also see the benefits to it. And there are days where I think I would like to have it. Just not here not in this life. I would love them to the day I died. But it's that same love that tells me I shouldn't for "reasons". Good reasons I can't deny.
You can employ a carer ,it's not just nursing, shopping cleaning or a keyworker not a cleaner or nurse but supports I've always just wanted a mother again, sexual relationships just seem to be too complex,being part of what is described a family :mother,father,siblings,aunts,uncles, grandparents,cousins,is just as complex,if you're in good health an animal is more comforting .
 
Trying to build a good quality, platonic network where sex is not in the equation is a good thing to aim for. That way, you basically live your own life for the most part, you may need to sacrifice a bit for your friend(s), but the sacrifice is worth it as long as they try to reciprocate enough and you guys help each other out when you can. If a friendship worked at first and it didn't work later on, that could happen too. Build new friendships if you must as time goes on.
 
Let's put this in perspective. How many of us can find somebody we can be with? Most of us can't. When we find that special one- sometimes they aren't ready for us. In the end- there is nothing we can do. If it feels right on every level then there is your answer.☺

If you feel trust, if you feel acceptance, if you feel wonder and happiness, if you feel that they would do anything for you? Then u have your answer. But if u aren't ready.......
 
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