1) a lot of people say they'll get around to something, and some really mean it, but never do. Maybe you guys can watch and discuss a movie or a documentary about it instead.
2) A lot of working spouses complain about household not being taken care of by a non working spouse (even if there's no Asperger's involved) because of unrealistic expectations. maybe you can casually tell him what you have done during a random day from the morning to the evening. You could also have a schedule (which can be helpful for a person on the spectrum) and share your schedule with him. As for the list, he might expect you to figure it out. From my experience, a lot of men expect, women make lists (because they don't trust yhat their men will do what expected
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3) all the things you're describing seem like pretty typical marriage issues where 2 different personalities collide. There can be always a compromise, depends how important each item on your things - that - cause - conflicts list to each person.
Maybe you can talk (or write) to each other and describe each others expectations and then discuss where you both can compromise.
2) A lot of working spouses complain about household not being taken care of by a non working spouse (even if there's no Asperger's involved) because of unrealistic expectations. maybe you can casually tell him what you have done during a random day from the morning to the evening. You could also have a schedule (which can be helpful for a person on the spectrum) and share your schedule with him. As for the list, he might expect you to figure it out. From my experience, a lot of men expect, women make lists (because they don't trust yhat their men will do what expected

3) all the things you're describing seem like pretty typical marriage issues where 2 different personalities collide. There can be always a compromise, depends how important each item on your things - that - cause - conflicts list to each person.
Maybe you can talk (or write) to each other and describe each others expectations and then discuss where you both can compromise.