Communication and Friendships

[Wanderinginthewoods]

I care a lot for my friends and I'd never want anything happening to them. I'd be there if they told me that they needed me but I'm completely okay being alone and doing my own thing. Sometimes people think that I must not care for them if I don't talk to them every single day. I'll message my close friends and reach out to them and see how their doing. Once I've caught up with them a bit, I do my own thing.

As for my family, they know I love to relax in my room or do my own thing. Sometimes my family comes over and I'll speak to them but I don't want to sit as my mother and father are talking to my family and asking them things. If it's too personal, I usually think it's best to leave because I respect people's privacy.

When one of my friends has something to do, I understand that and quickly say my goodbye's because I don't want to leave their friend waiting on them if they were invited out to hang out with them. Sometimes I'll be invited out to go along with them and when I'm not, I never get upset by it because I always find things to do in my spare time. My friends are aware of how I am and don't take it personally which I'm happy about. Some days I told them, I just sort of like doing my own thing. I communicate very well and if I somehow said something wrong, I do end up apologizing and ask them what they were upset by exactly.

When I was younger and had trouble making friends because I honestly didn't know what to say or how to do small talk. I'm okay at it I guess but I rather have intellectual conversations over small talk. Anyone relate?

 

[onlything]

Same. It's rather difficult to keep friends, seeing as for some reason friendship seems to mean meeting or talking personally/through the phone every single day and people are put off when you don't do it. If you're also rather expressionless by nature, it can make them think that you don't care at all. Or they simply don't care enough to do anything else but go to bars and drink alcohol(and what's the point in that?).

I'm too easily exhausted and bored in people's presence. I need my own thing, my own pace and my own closed-off space where no one comes. Otherwise I'm getting madder, panicked or more depressed.

My favourite way to spend time would be to sit in one room but do our own things, without talking. Tweaking something on the PC, reading books, watching movies. At times, discussing ideas if something.

I can count on one hand people patient enough to tolerate it and I don't even need that hand to count those that cared enough to try to understand.