I recently was diagnosed with high functioning autism. a couple days ago I essentially got demoted in my job. I felt more overwhelmed that again even though i put SO much effort, it only results in mediocrity. It is not my field because this happens in every job ive had, from teaching to janitorial duties, where i eventually am demoted or fired or used in a way that theyll think i'll quit. I have realized this is related to my autism and has made me very sad. I am worried Ill never really be able to have a job. I am educated, hard working, and honest but for what?
how do you overcome this feeling if you relate to it? is anyone else scared that one day they wont be able to have a job? how do you explain to people that you work hard and still fail? they dont believe you. and if you tell them you have ASD, they'll have a bias against you. . .
It seems perhaps that negative thought framing may be playing a role in minimising the interpretation of your achievements and intended outcomes, so rather than using negative or positive thought framing ~ try perhaps framing things neutrally and balance both more appropriately.
You could perhaps learn a thinking process called the Tetralemma by some, or four-way thinking, where one learns to view each state of affairs on balance point for point as equally being:
1,) Good.
2.) Bad.
3.) Both good and bad.
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4.) Neither good or bad.
So for example:
1.) Guns are good in terms of being practically easy to operate.
2.) Guns are bad in terms of being dangerous to their users when they malfunction.
3.) Guns are both good and bad in terms of being good to provide food by way of hunting, and are bad when they are used to threaten, rob or murder people.
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4.) Guns are neither good or bad as it depends who is using them such as a soldier or member of the public and what the situation is ~ such as whether they are out to harm or protect others for instance.
The basic rationale with this type of thinking; is that all perspectives have an influence on our developmental progression, so settle not upon one when others may be required.
By learning to think in this way naturally as a matter of habit, people can eventually watch over and influence their thinking processes as their thinking processes operate ~ rather than having to struggle so much to operate them themselves, or having so much to struggle with their thinking processes operating them.
It is generally recommended to keep to simple objects when learning to use the Tetralemma or four-way thinking process ~ if of course one is interested in so doing.
I found the initial brain strain well worth the effort, by way of doing one in the morning and one in the evening during the week, and taking the weekends off ~ which lets you know the process is integrating and that your thinking is happening for you
A good subject many find useful it seems to practice with are seasonal weather conditions ~ what with there being quite a variety to choose from and all that.
Have a good one and may it be filled with infinitely more!
DT
