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Can it get worse?

Grace13

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I have Asperger's.... but the older i get the more meltdowns i get! i begin forgetting to go toilet and do it on myself... i also hit myself... hit others than come near me... i don't talk as calm as writing this.. i would make faces and maybe not say so much.. seems like classic autism but with speech... just saying the behavior is like it..
 
Grace, may I please ask your age? During adolescent hormonal hoopla, my ASD got much worse, and again now at MentalPause, same thing. Woohoo, meltdowns and wrinkles at the same time! Whodathunkit? ;)

Now might be a good time to learn more about your condition, as in what your sensitivities are, and how to minimize sensory/social/emotional overload. Streamlining your life, until you can develop better coping skills and work-arounds, can help in the interim. Learning mindfulness techniques (meditation) has helped my anxiety and tempered presentation of some challenging ASD tendencies greatly. Could you begin looking for an ASD specialist in your area?

I am sending you calming peace vibes, and wishes for strength as you find your way to greater stability.:sunflower:
 
Grace, may I please ask your age? During adolescent hormonal hoopla, my ASD got much worse, and again now at MentalPause, same thing. Woohoo, meltdowns and wrinkles at the same time! Whodathunkit? ;)

Now might be a good time to learn more about your condition, as in what your sensitivities are, and how to minimize sensory/social/emotional overload. Streamlining your life, until you can develop better coping skills and work-arounds, can help in the interim. Learning mindfulness techniques (meditation) has helped my anxiety and tempered presentation of some challenging ASD tendencies greatly. Could you begin looking for an ASD specialist in your area?

I am sending you calming peace vibes, and wishes for strength as you find your way to greater stability.:sunflower:
Im 13
 
Hi there Grace13

I would love to say that it won't get worse, but being an aspie is not about a passing phrase it is about being YOU. However, saying that, being an aspie, means you can learn to adapt.

The self abuse is frustration and so, you need an outlet for that. I used to have something called a stress doll, which was a tiny ball that I could squeeze as hard as I wanted and it would take it and wow it really did help me, but lol it got so hard, I couldn't do that and had to get rid of it. Actually, I think I will get another one, for sadly, I suffer anger very much.

The biggest help would be if your family work with you, rather than try to make you work with them. The fact that you hit out at others, suggest that they annoy you. So first, get to know as much as you can about being a young aspie and then, see if your parents are open to learning as well.

I get a strong impression that the older one is, when they find out, the better it is for them, but at the same time, I would have loved to know that I was an aspie, at your age, for it would have explained so much of my strange behaviors and the such.

You mention that you feel you might be more an autie than an aspie, accept for your speech? Well I have been looking at this on youtube and it is only when autism is severe that speech is impaired to the extent they cannot speak. But guess what? There was a documentary on a school in England, that is for auties and aspies and the marked difference was that the aspergic child was more violent that the autie child!!!! Also, I read that auties are less conscious of their peers and thus, do not suffer quite the sensitivies that us aspies suffer and anxiety is higher for aspies.

You have joined the best forum in the world, to my mind, and can inbox any of us and we will be happy to help you. After all, we aspies and auties, should stick together lol
 
Hi there Grace13

I would love to say that it won't get worse, but being an aspie is not about a passing phrase it is about being YOU. However, saying that, being an aspie, means you can learn to adapt.

The self abuse is frustration and so, you need an outlet for that. I used to have something called a stress doll, which was a tiny ball that I could squeeze as hard as I wanted and it would take it and wow it really did help me, but lol it got so hard, I couldn't do that and had to get rid of it. Actually, I think I will get another one, for sadly, I suffer anger very much.

The biggest help would be if your family work with you, rather than try to make you work with them. The fact that you hit out at others, suggest that they annoy you. So first, get to know as much as you can about being a young aspie and then, see if your parents are open to learning as well.

I get a strong impression that the older one is, when they find out, the better it is for them, but at the same time, I would have loved to know that I was an aspie, at your age, for it would have explained so much of my strange behaviors and the such.

You mention that you feel you might be more an autie than an aspie, accept for your speech? Well I have been looking at this on youtube and it is only when autism is severe that speech is impaired to the extent they cannot speak. But guess what? There was a documentary on a school in England, that is for auties and aspies and the marked difference was that the aspergic child was more violent that the autie child!!!! Also, I read that auties are less conscious of their peers and thus, do not suffer quite the sensitivies that us aspies suffer and anxiety is higher for aspies.

You have joined the best forum in the world, to my mind, and can inbox any of us and we will be happy to help you. After all, we aspies and auties, should stick together lol
MY BRACES IS HURTING MY MOUTH!! not screaming at you:grin::grin: ok........ i hope im not going to an institution....
 
MY BRACES IS HURTING MY MOUTH!! not screaming at you:grin::grin: ok........ i hope im not going to an institution....

Have you told your parents about your bracing hurting you? Because they shouldn't hurt, sweetie, which means they need adjusting. I wonder if this is an aspie thing too, because when I am suffering or something, I panic because I cannot see a solution!
 
Braces were a bad experience for me, i couldn't eat normal food and i got worse than usual, and that was in my 20s. The metal on the braces would shred the skin inside my cheeks. The teeth moving was painful, and kept me up some nights.

Don't assume you are getting worse because of your age. Consider different environmental factors, like braces is a huge factor. If it changes the way you eat and live, then it might be responsible for your difficulty.
 
Gracie, things did get worse for me at age 13 - 25. But you have a diagnosis, I did not. You can seek out a good autism specialist/therapist. Time to ask your parents for help in finding one! Also, be sure to tell them about the braces hurting you. Finding an autism specialist/therapist will mean someone will be able to help you manage your meltdowns, and your life with autism, easier. Best of luck to you, my friend! :)
 
Welcome Grace13. I could not have outlined it better than Suzanne. I had similar difficulties as a teen, frequently hitting myself and screaming and pulling my hair. Looking back I realize that my meltdowns always increase in frequency and severity in times of transition, or physical / environmental stress. Sometimes it is hormonal but often it is the result of too many demands at school or work, relationships, etc. I had lots of meltdowns through college, which decreased when I took medical leave of absence. I did okay as long as I worked only part time, but after my son was born I started having major meltdowns and shutdowns again, which led to my diagnosis.

I now consider the meltdowns and shutdowns to be an important barometer, an indicator of when I have taken on too much and need to give myself more accommodation in terms of time and canceling obligations which aren't really important (I often need another person to help me determine what those are).

In other words, it isn't good to try to fight the meltdowns, because they are your mind and body communicating to you that you need something you aren't getting. A therapist or family member can help you identify those needs and can help you organize your other obligations to make them less stressful.

My son who is 7 just had the same problem with his braces, it kept him up all night but the next day he had them adjusted and now is fine. So I hope yours can also be adjusted! I have always hated the lights and sounds and tastes at the dentist's but it is soooo much worse to have hurting teeth and gums. Can't think when that happens...
 
Welcome Grace13. I could not have outlined it better than Suzanne. I had similar difficulties as a teen, frequently hitting myself and screaming and pulling my hair. Looking back I realize that my meltdowns always increase in frequency and severity in times of transition, or physical / environmental stress. Sometimes it is hormonal but often it is the result of too many demands at school or work, relationships, etc. I had lots of meltdowns through college, which decreased when I took medical leave of absence. I did okay as long as I worked only part time, but after my son was born I started having major meltdowns and shutdowns again, which led to my diagnosis.

I now consider the meltdowns and shutdowns to be an important barometer, an indicator of when I have taken on too much and need to give myself more accommodation in terms of time and canceling obligations which aren't really important (I often need another person to help me determine what those are).

In other words, it isn't good to try to fight the meltdowns, because they are your mind and body communicating to you that you need something you aren't getting. A therapist or family member can help you identify those needs and can help you organize your other obligations to make them less stressful.

My son who is 7 just had the same problem with his braces, it kept him up all night but the next day he had them adjusted and now is fine. So I hope yours can also be adjusted! I have always hated the lights and sounds and tastes at the dentist's but it is soooo much worse to have hurting teeth and gums. Can't think when that happens...

That is so sweet of you to say that about my answer to Gracie13
 
Hi Grace,
My first thoughts were you are at that stage where hormones are changing. I don't have anything to add about that beyond what others have said.
I am wondering however what is actually hurting in your mouth. If its your teeth or gums, it should slowly settle down as your teeth move into their new positions. If it's the inside of your lips/cheeks, you can get wax to place on the sharp bits so they don't catch/cut. You probably know this already, but just saying in case you weren't told.
 
Horrormones and braces. I will pray for you. o_O

If you have an interests or hobbies, now is a good time to get lost in them. Exercise helped me out a lot, the physical exertion helped negate some of my stress and keep my mind clear. If you like Karate, Tai Chi, bicycling, or anything like that, go for it.

Braces were a nightmare for me too. My mouth stayed shredded and bleeding the full two years, and on top of that I became badly malnourished from the pain. (And my doctor being a sadistic idiot in general. He glued my mouth open twice so I couldn't eat.) Ten years later, and my gums are still bleeding some nights when I brush. I still have abnormal levels of pain during colds in both my teeth and sinuses due to the scarring. Braces really should be made part of our penal system.
 
actually High-function autism.. they found it out when i was about 4

Heya Grace, I love your Royal python, I used to have one just like that called Amy :)
May I ask if you find it easy to talk to your folks?
I used to hit myself a lot when I was thirteen.. my parents didn't understand, but I do now and I'm really fine :):):)
 
Hi. This is Grace's mom. We've had a lot of ups and downs with Grace the past few years and have been to several specialists, therapists, psychologists, doctors, you name it. We live in Norway and I feel that the healthcare system could be a bit better. Grace has had to wait for several months just to see a psychologist. She likes to chat (a bit too much), but we try to moderate where she is online and what she says to whom. I thought that it might be good for her to come in contact with others like herself and share expeiences and problems. The only rule is that she has to show me what she will post before she posts. Does anyone know of a website where teens can socialize safely?
 
Oh and by the way, Grace may misunderstand a bit of what is said even though I am American and speak English at home, she speaks Norwegian with everyone else. I am hoping that she can practice her English skills a bit...it's always more fun with others, right?
 
Hi. This is Grace's mom. We've had a lot of ups and downs with Grace the past few years and have been to several specialists, therapists, psychologists, doctors, you name it. We live in Norway and I feel that the healthcare system could be a bit better. Grace has had to wait for several months just to see a psychologist. She likes to chat (a bit too much), but we try to moderate where she is online and what she says to whom. I thought that it might be good for her to come in contact with others like herself and share expeiences and problems. The only rule is that she has to show me what she will post before she posts. Does anyone know of a website where teens can socialize safely?

Hi, I'm a little too old to know where teens can chat safely, but I would like to say that we, the staff, have been keeping an eye on Grace whilst she is logged in. I'd like to think she is safe here and the older members have been offering advice where necessary.

I'm glad you came along to fill us in a little re. Grace.

Harrison
 
Horrormones and braces. I will pray for you. o_O

If you have an interests or hobbies, now is a good time to get lost in them. Exercise helped me out a lot, the physical exertion helped negate some of my stress and keep my mind clear. If you like Karate, Tai Chi, bicycling, or anything like that, go for it.

Braces were a nightmare for me too. My mouth stayed shredded and bleeding the full two years, and on top of that I became badly malnourished from the pain. (And my doctor being a sadistic idiot in general. He glued my mouth open twice so I couldn't eat.) Ten years later, and my gums are still bleeding some nights when I brush. I still have abnormal levels of pain during colds in both my teeth and sinuses due to the scarring. Braces really should be made part of our penal system.[/QU
Horrormones and braces. I will pray for you. o_O

If you have an interests or hobbies, now is a good time to get lost in them. Exercise helped me out a lot, the physical exertion helped negate some of my stress and keep my mind clear. If you like Karate, Tai Chi, bicycling, or anything like that, go for it.

Braces were a nightmare for me too. My mouth stayed shredded and bleeding the full two years, and on top of that I became badly malnourished from the pain. (And my doctor being a sadistic idiot in general. He glued my mouth open twice so I couldn't eat.) Ten years later, and my gums are still bleeding some nights when I brush. I still have abnormal levels of pain during colds in both my teeth and sinuses due to the scarring. Braces really should be made part of our penal system.
PS is that a pet python in your picture? Snakes are quite beautiful!
I was at a reptile park, where I could hold a snake.
 
Hi, I'm a little too old to know where teens can chat safely, but I would like to say that we, the staff, have been keeping an eye on Grace whilst she is logged in. I'd like to think she is safe here and the older members have been offering advice where necessary.

I'm glad you came along to fill us in a little re. Grace.

Harrison
That's good to know. Grace is a small genius when it comes to navigating the web and getting into things she shouldn't. It's not easy keeping a constant eye out. :O) She's been informed about internet safety at home and school at least. Hormones are difficult for anyone with or without a diagnosis and I'm foreign to this role of being a mom of teens.Help. I've had a lot of parental classes and advice, but it's not always easy to find a solution to all of the problems/issues.
 

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