ladydragon
Eclectic
So my son and I both have Asperger's. I can understand what he is going through a lot of the time. However when it comes to the boy things I (being the mom, without a male role model around) have a hard time helping him to not feel anxious about stuff that he hasn't had happen yet, but being 11 and in 6th grade he knows it is coming.
A couple of our big issues right now he is having difficulty with is anxiety over what a wet dream is, and no matter how much I tell him it is a natural thing that will happen and to not worry about it, he still is scared and worried about it being like peeing the bed and he is worried that he will wake up in a puddle of wet stuff.
Also another issue that we are dealing with is he is having anxiety about feeling something he doesn't understand and he thinks he has to pee all the time and he sits on the potty for nearly 45 minutes yesterday. I tried to explain to him the "tingles(his wording)" he is feeling probably is not about needing to pee. I got him some books on boy body development to help him understand some of what is happening, but he is a math minded Aspie and finds reading boring, unless it is strictly about something he is interested in.
I don't know how to help him to relax about what is happening with his body. He has even gone as far as to say he doesn't want to grow up and he gets angry about his body feelings that he doesn't understand. And his anxiety causes me to feel worried and anxiety for him also. I have gotten him therapists to talk to about these things as well. I am not sure they are helping much, because he is still anxious about these things.
I guess I am just looking for words of advice from parents who have had boys and from the male perspective of other Aspies who had similar anxieties at the tween-teen age.
Thank you
A couple of our big issues right now he is having difficulty with is anxiety over what a wet dream is, and no matter how much I tell him it is a natural thing that will happen and to not worry about it, he still is scared and worried about it being like peeing the bed and he is worried that he will wake up in a puddle of wet stuff.
Also another issue that we are dealing with is he is having anxiety about feeling something he doesn't understand and he thinks he has to pee all the time and he sits on the potty for nearly 45 minutes yesterday. I tried to explain to him the "tingles(his wording)" he is feeling probably is not about needing to pee. I got him some books on boy body development to help him understand some of what is happening, but he is a math minded Aspie and finds reading boring, unless it is strictly about something he is interested in.
I don't know how to help him to relax about what is happening with his body. He has even gone as far as to say he doesn't want to grow up and he gets angry about his body feelings that he doesn't understand. And his anxiety causes me to feel worried and anxiety for him also. I have gotten him therapists to talk to about these things as well. I am not sure they are helping much, because he is still anxious about these things.
I guess I am just looking for words of advice from parents who have had boys and from the male perspective of other Aspies who had similar anxieties at the tween-teen age.
Thank you
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