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Well, I have told him in various but direct and specific ways that I love him and what qualities he has that I love but I don't know if he can feel my love.Sometimes people over complicate things.
Well, I have told him in various but direct and specific ways that I love him and what qualities he has that I love but I don't know if he can feel my love.
We don't know anything about him, so we can't give you advice that is "meaning to him".
Need advice on how to show or express this
I got into soooooooooooo much trouble in one relationship for not saying "I love you" when she considered/insisted to be the right time and the right place. It eventually precipitated our ultimate breakup.
The saddest part was that I really did love her at the time.
That is sad! Well, my friend seems a bit more able to express feelings than many Aspies but he did tell me it was not easy for him. I feel incredibly lucky to have him as a friend and want him to feel both loved and accepted for the wonderful person he is.I got into soooooooooooo much trouble in one relationship for not saying "I love you" when she considered/insisted to be the right time and the right place. It eventually precipitated our ultimate breakup.
The saddest part was that I really did love her at the time.
Depending upon the individual, that might be a question that he could not answer and could cause him to withdraw or shutdown.Have you considered asking him what might make him feel loved?
Yes! I have asked him- his response was "don't worry, you are doing a fine job."Have you considered asking him what might make him feel loved?
Yes! I have asked him- his response was "don't worry, you are doing a fine job."
Continuing my hypothesis;
Asking an Alexi "how do you feel?" is a question they probably can't answer and that will frequently lead to overload and shutdown.
Asking an aspie "how do you feel?" Is a question that they potentially can't answer as we do have challenges understanding and expressing our emotions - so there is risk of overload and shutdown.
Asking an empathic "how do you feel?" Is potentially such a natural thing that they don't even have to think in order to express how they actually feel. Their feelings being the forefront of their expressions. This individual seeks emotional reciprocation from those around them as validation of their existence and expression, when they don't receive that emotional reciprocation they think something is wrong, or the person is angry, or eventually that the person is broken. On the extreme end they wait while sacrificing their core needs and hope things change, that is Casandra Syndrome.
Maybe I just need to accept that and stop worrying! Thank you!!!Sorry to intrude, but what's wrong with his response?
He's kind of said he feels loved in this statement.
So you've kind of already showed him.