Being vulnerable in the public eye

[Sherlock77]

Today I was reading a local arts magazine, there were two articles about musicians I know fairly well (I mean know them personally), both shared struggles of life, beyond just being musicians, real life struggles

One shared about past struggles with addiction, and even a sexual incident from the past which was a secret until recently, and had a huge impact on his relationship with his father......

The other musician shared about struggles of the past decade that ultimately led to a diagnosis of bi-polar

I was thinking of how many of us on the Autism spectrum tend to hide it (I know some of the reasons why), I even know I'm careful myself at times, how all of us hide our flaws and in some cases secrets from the past... It gave me new insight into two people I know fairly well and their courage...

I'm not really in the public eye the way they are,but perhaps we can encourage others around by our life struggles and how we work through them... I am aware of other artists with Autism who do share of themselves, I don't have a big enough public profile to do much, if that matters...

 

[Aspychata]

My life struggle is people already determining what l should do, where l should work, and who l should date or marry. I have my own 24/7 entourage of people l don't know that go by the name of extreme busybodies.

So l just retired recently and relax at home because l don't want struggle with a bunch of entitled people who think they know something when most of them don't work, have never traveled out of the country, and are clueless.

That's my struggle these days, busybodies, lol.

 

[Sherlock77]

I hope this topic makes sense, maybe it's me just musing...

It just hit home a little closer because these two artists are (somewhat) famous people I know personally... We all have stories... Anyway, my story is far less interesting than their story, my life is rather boring, nothing all that exciting...

But as restrictions lift more, the lady who did my Autism test one year ago encouraged me to consider getting involved with the local Autism society as a volunteer, perhaps even a mentor Not sure if I'm up for that...

 

[Gerald Wilgus]

But as restrictions lift more, the lady who did my Autism test one year ago encouraged me to consider getting involved with the local Autism society as a volunteer, perhaps even a mentor Not sure if I'm up for that...

Maybe try it on a contingent basis? I was able to mentor people in my work and enjoyed it tremendously. I had seen NTs who seem to hoard their expertise and experience to exert dominance and my idea is that sharing to help others gives oneself influence, the better outcome.

 

[GadAbout]

But as restrictions lift more, the lady who did my Autism test one year ago encouraged me to consider getting involved with the local Autism society as a volunteer, perhaps even a mentor Not sure if I'm up for that...

This will sound terrible, but I don't like being around autistic people. Their tics and rough edges irritate my nervous system. Maybe I've had to deal with too much of it in my own family, but no way am I volunteering to be around that sort of thing.

If I befriend someone of like interests and style and later find out they are autistic, no big deal. I'm certain that some of my friends and romantic partners throughout life have been autistic, but I certainly didn't go looking for it.

 

[Gift2humanity]

Today I was reading a local arts magazine, there were two articles about musicians I know fairly well (I mean know them personally), both shared struggles of life, beyond just being musicians, real life struggles

One shared about past struggles with addiction, and even a sexual incident from the past which was a secret until recently, and had a huge impact on his relationship with his father......

The other musician shared about struggles of the past decade that ultimately led to a diagnosis of bi-polar

I was thinking of how many of us on the Autism spectrum tend to hide it (I know some of the reasons why), I even know I'm careful myself at times, how all of us hide our flaws and in some cases secrets from the past... It gave me new insight into two people I know fairly well and their courage...

I'm not really in the public eye the way they are,but perhaps we can encourage others around by our life struggles and how we work through them... I am aware of other artists with Autism who do share of themselves, I don't have a big enough public profile to do much, if that matters...

Growing up I felt flawed, I hid a lot of things to fit in.
Unfortunately this meant hiding a lot of personal assets.

 

[watersprite]

I found out I need to have a great deal of contol when out in the public eye as you put it.

I can be myself - be honest and available while being social - sort of it just has to have certain time limits and parameters.

But in real life.
This led to severe disapproval by my special someone.

I can be vulnerable and my creativity and sense of being alive and thriving is enhanced. It can’t be dictated by external circumstances though. Hope that helps.

 

[Sherlock77]

I do think that the nature of an artist, especially those in the public eye, is interesting... Their personal life and struggles often come out in the open, as the creative world is their way to work through those struggles...

Most of the population works through that without it being made very public