There's one thread posted in 2012 but I'd like to start another thread.
My question is: What should I do/act being shouted immature? Any way to prevent/avoid from being screamed?
I was shouted 'immature' 3 days ago by my mom, the anxiety and meltdown delayed and finally burst out those feelings a moment ago so I come here fearfully asking this question.
She shouted at me cause I didn't wear heavy coat while we went for dinner. She said "can't you even act like a 21yo adult? Why are you always like a 3-year-old stupid child? You are definitely an adult now don't make me worry about you catching a cold just because you don't keep yourself warm!"
I tried to explain to her "everyone has a different sensitivity to the weather and I don't think I need that kind of heavy coat. We are in a car, going to a restaurant which has parking garages that means we don't really need to wear an extra coat."
Skip those rest nonsense argument. Maybe I was partially right and wrong but it did cause panic while I found that I didn't get her rule. Simply, I didn't connect winter with heavy clothes. I used to wear T-shirt in winter if it was hot enough and that made me be punished by junior high homeroom teacher. But in my opinion, clothes are related to temperature.
I would frequently be called/shouted/screamed/teased(upon on others' mood) immature/stubborn on an average 3 times a week(I have both great short-term and long-term memory so it's easy to count). The whole complicated confusion makes me vomit(right now, so I stop typing and go vomiting and be back). At the moment I recognize I am lack of something in my brain practically, it's like if I split my head looking inside I can find a hole being there.
I don't meltdown because of a problem which is much harder than anything else, I do when some small and silly conflicts appear too often. These trivial things keep accumulating and waiting for a chance hitting me down regularly and they are all called "immature". I feel like haven't being coded lots of rules and I've been teased by my parents/elders several times for acting like a robot-- one order, one action.
I had asked my therapist this question before but she told me "it seems you've got your answer" That was the moment I realized listing all possible solutions I thought confidently wasn't a good way while asking others question.
This almost happens every month and I do need some suggests. I sincerely appreciate all you guys read/respond me.
My question is: What should I do/act being shouted immature? Any way to prevent/avoid from being screamed?
I was shouted 'immature' 3 days ago by my mom, the anxiety and meltdown delayed and finally burst out those feelings a moment ago so I come here fearfully asking this question.
She shouted at me cause I didn't wear heavy coat while we went for dinner. She said "can't you even act like a 21yo adult? Why are you always like a 3-year-old stupid child? You are definitely an adult now don't make me worry about you catching a cold just because you don't keep yourself warm!"
I tried to explain to her "everyone has a different sensitivity to the weather and I don't think I need that kind of heavy coat. We are in a car, going to a restaurant which has parking garages that means we don't really need to wear an extra coat."
Skip those rest nonsense argument. Maybe I was partially right and wrong but it did cause panic while I found that I didn't get her rule. Simply, I didn't connect winter with heavy clothes. I used to wear T-shirt in winter if it was hot enough and that made me be punished by junior high homeroom teacher. But in my opinion, clothes are related to temperature.
I would frequently be called/shouted/screamed/teased(upon on others' mood) immature/stubborn on an average 3 times a week(I have both great short-term and long-term memory so it's easy to count). The whole complicated confusion makes me vomit(right now, so I stop typing and go vomiting and be back). At the moment I recognize I am lack of something in my brain practically, it's like if I split my head looking inside I can find a hole being there.
I don't meltdown because of a problem which is much harder than anything else, I do when some small and silly conflicts appear too often. These trivial things keep accumulating and waiting for a chance hitting me down regularly and they are all called "immature". I feel like haven't being coded lots of rules and I've been teased by my parents/elders several times for acting like a robot-- one order, one action.
I had asked my therapist this question before but she told me "it seems you've got your answer" That was the moment I realized listing all possible solutions I thought confidently wasn't a good way while asking others question.
This almost happens every month and I do need some suggests. I sincerely appreciate all you guys read/respond me.