Berianireth
Well-Known Member
Okay this is kind of a sensitive issue for me, but I'm not sure where else to go for advice if not here; I am interested in carrying on somewhat of a love life, but I've found that things between me and other people, especially of the opposite sex, tend to be very superficial unless there happens to be very deep commonality. I'm busy, and the people I love unconditionally are also busy. Granted I have a need for distance, but I am starting to feel too empty and powerless lately and I'd really like to have some fun in my next decade of life! So I'm considering stooping... casual dating and possibly relationships that are purely physical might be alright. My only concern is that I'm a bit of a weirdo to men because I've finally realized that it's just about *always* just sex. I'm a grown woman, so the mature thing to do is accept this but I'm not on birth control and frankly I catastrophize with people I've met recently. Suppose the person has an STD, or what if they're grossly abusive? I feel like I need to create a standard for my interactions before I continue because I'm on the verge of becoming a very well-known coffee slut that puzzles and hurts busy graduate students. Any advice?