Behave totally different when confronted with strangers, than anyone I feel comfortable with.

[Suzanne]

To be exact, we had two strangers taking care of our dogs, whilst we went away for a couple of nights and really, they were nice people, but I just felt so out of it. Everything seemed surreal and I was overtalking and on coming home, was again, overtalking and could only breath easier, when they went.

It is the worst scenario for me, yet, the chap has a daughter who has classic autism and his wife, works with girls with aspergers, so you would think I would feel more at ease? But, nope, I felt completely the opposite. I hated also, when the female told me to keep calm lol

 

[Judge]

Frankly, I'm never at ease with strangers. PERIOD.

 

[GrownupGirl]

When I was growing up we kids were always being warned how dangerous strangers were, even if they seemed nice, so even at 45 my "stranger danger" alarm goes off when when someone I don't know suddenly comes up to me and starts talking like they've known me for years. Never mind that most kids are really kidnapped, molested, and/or murdered by their own relatives.

 

[Suzanne]

Frankly, I'm never at ease with strangers. PERIOD.

Do you act differently?

 

[Michael Balog]

Boy I wish it was just so easy as to say “keep calm” I would of done that years ago had I known.

 

[Judge]

Do you act differently?

LOL...oh my, yes. Just another basic reason why making friends and job interviews have always been difficult.

In essence, most first impressions of me aren't too good. Where I tend to be quite formal...and struggle not to appear uptight. Though in real time that generally describes me quite well under such circumstances.

For a number of years I took meds for anti-anxiety...particularly for all those first impressions.

And when in doubt, "X-Files, baby!" - Trust no one. Welcome to my world.

 

[Wolfnox]

I put on my batman face. Let them do the talking. While watching around me and weighing their words in my mind.

 

[Fino]

I believe nearly all humans act differently around strangers.

I act different around people! I'm not fully comfortable if there are other humans that can perceive me.

 

[Rebecca Merriam]

Sometimes when I'm around people I don't know or am not comfortable with, the room feels smaller and all my language has flown out the door. My suggestion is a mini meditation before seeing people to help reduce the heart rate and release the tension, and a meditation after the event to release the new tensions

 

[Aspychata]

Is it just the world we live in? l think you are okay to feel this way. The strong and clueless survive. I think l like that label.

 

[Cazelle]

I don't like meeting strangers much, I hate that I know they are 'judging' me to form their opinion of me. I feel very self-conscious. It is worse if it is at my house. Then it is not just me but my whole house they are taking into account.

Sometimes I overtalk too, or start mixing up my words (which I'm sure does wonders for that first impression! :-( ).

 

[Progster]

My partner often talks to strangers - he just walks up to them and strikes up a conversation and finds this easy, but not me. I find it difficult to approach and talk to strangers, it takes a long time before I can open up a little and speak. I really would prefer not to talk to them unless really necessary and keep myself to myself. I can never relax round people generally and with strangers I'm even more tense.