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Beginning friendships - mutual initiation, or not??

How are the dynamics of friendships over teh holiday season?

Anybody prefer meeting people outside of the holiday season - rather than meeting with people during the hectic holiday season?
 
Shamar said:
Me!?! INITIATING a friendship? You mean like walking up to someone I never met before and starting a conversation? I will see unicorns grazing in my back yard before that happens.
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If that happens, please let me know! I will help you relocate them...to my yard 😁
 
Had tons of friends, turns out they all have had very similar personalities to someone I've already known well--most of them were similar to my childhood best friend.
 
Shamar said:
Me!?! INITIATING a friendship? You mean like walking up to someone I never met before and starting a conversation? I will see unicorns grazing in my back yard before that happens.
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Best to initiate friendships where there are people who have common/shared interests.
 
MROSS said:
Best to initiate friendships where there are people who have common/shared interests.
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The thought is terrifying. I would rather face down a king cobra than enter a room full of people I don't know, even if there are mutual interests. I have done both, and so have a good basis for comparison.
 
With the holiday season upon us, I've had more and more opportunites for interaction that is slightly more than small talk - yet not too involved.

We reassess our strengths (small talk) in order to reasses our weaknesses (friendships).

If sharing small-talk with familar trusted people is a stregth, that's a good ice-breaker.

Let's give ourselves credit for handling small-talk so well!
 
MROSS said:
Let's give ourselves credit for handling small-talk so well!
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You give me too much credit. At the family holiday gatherings, I am very quiet unless one of the two techie relatives is there. Then we'll find a corner somewhere and update each other on our tech interests.

Small talk dodged.
 
Jumpinbare said:
You give me too much credit. At the family holiday gatherings, I am very quiet unless one of the two techie relatives is there. Then we'll find a corner somewhere and update each other on our tech interests.

Small talk dodged.
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Personally, I've found discussions on the arts i.e., paintings, drawings, photos, sculptures, carvings good ice breakers - esp. considering I create art images as a hobby.

As for TECH. - Discussions on how TECH. is being applied is the main focus.

As mentioned earlier, we reassess our strengths (small talk) in order to reasses our weaknesses (friendships). At first, I was surprised at the robust stenghts I have.

I sense that experiences of rediscovering those hidden strenghts are experiences of interest here on 'AutismForums.'
 
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