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Back after a short hiatus.

Marcus

Star Wars enthusiast
Well, after what seemed like an eternity, I decided to come back here.

I wouldn't say that I'm a total stranger here, I've posted a few threads before, but sometimes even being involved in a site with people that deal with the same type of issues you do can be overwhelming.

I doubt anyone truly cares to read any of this, but it was a little hard to believe at first that people cared about my problems and were happy to offer advice. I still think that to this day, even people that I meet in the real world that have autism or depression or anything related to what I deal with.

Why should someone take time out of their day to deal with your issues or to lend an ear? Especially when you're just someone behind a keyboard or another face in real life that means nothing to them.

Depression is what mainly drove me away, and some of my interests that I've mentioned on here in the past have changed, so it makes me feel like I liar to have specific threads posted about a particular subject that I am no longer interested in.

People don't know the full story of my autism on here or what I deal with on a daily basis, and I doubt even one person would truly care enough for me to tell them everything.

The mind is a dangerous thing, and yet I've ran into some people that just say "Oh, it's not that bad." or "You'll get over it."

I feel like I'm starting to ramble on here.. but the point is, I came back just to get another chance and see if I mattered again.

Hopefully someone cares, I'd hate for my mind to be correct like it usually is.
 
Well, after what seemed like an eternity, I decided to come back here.

I wouldn't say that I'm a total stranger here, I've posted a few threads before, but sometimes even being involved in a site with people that deal with the same type of issues you do can be overwhelming.

I doubt anyone truly cares to read any of this, but it was a little hard to believe at first that people cared about my problems and were happy to offer advice. I still think that to this day, even people that I meet in the real world that have autism or depression or anything related to what I deal with.

Why should someone take time out of their day to deal with your issues or to lend an ear? Especially when you're just someone behind a keyboard or another face in real life that means nothing to them.

Depression is what mainly drove me away, and some of my interests that I've mentioned on here in the past have changed, so it makes me feel like I liar to have specific threads posted about a particular subject that I am no longer interested in.

People don't know the full story of my autism on here or what I deal with on a daily basis, and I doubt even one person would truly care enough for me to tell them everything.

The mind is a dangerous thing, and yet I've ran into some people that just say "Oh, it's not that bad." or "You'll get over it."

I feel like I'm starting to ramble on here.. but the point is, I came back just to get another chance and see if I mattered again.

Hopefully someone cares, I'd hate for my mind to be correct like it usually is.

Welcome back! I have come in and out . I feel like people matter here :) Sometimes on a bad day, I will say, "Dang. I am SO going to post this. I am sure someone on AC will understand. " I hope you are bombarded with kindness because the world is harsh. WELCOME BACK! :)
 
PS: Let me just add that people really do understand about that long, excruciating Non-NT Road. Mine has been rather circuitous itself.
 
Why should someone take time out of their day to deal with your issues or to lend an ear? Especially when you're just someone behind a keyboard or another face in real life that means nothing to them.

Because you like us... We don't have anyone else basically to talk too... so we just hang out and confuse each other... Welcome back : )
 
I do know why I come here. When I came the first time, people really helped me to understand when they gave me information about autism. It explained a lot and made me feel less as if I don't belong anywhere. Helped me to understand myself, and my husband, who also is autistic. Made things clearer for me.
Because of that, how it made me feel better and less confused, I want to do that for others.
 
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Maybe people here don't actually care about your problems (they have lots of theirs), but there is a knowledge they can really understand. Maybe I feel this for the first time in life. We are helping each other by sharing the information and feelings. I am new and I really like the site. I feel like myself here, like I don't need to hide and pretending to be normal.
Anyway welcome again ^^
 
I get what you are saying and admit to be very surprised at the acceptance on this forum that I have not found elsewhere. Not only have others gone through similar experiences and understand much of my struggles the understanding and acceptance was staggering for me. I didn't create an opening post when I came due to some of my personal issues and anxiety but I have seen in numerous threads that people do care and are supportive here. You may not have felt it in the past but you are among friends here, give us a chance? Though I haven't been on here long myself so maybe I don't have a super lot of room to talk but what I have seen is good.
 
I think I may have been in that circle myself.
Setting a high barrier for people to jump over.
What is caring?
I get to define it, I also get to put people in the category of not caring enough.
I used a similar method to keep people distant from me.

I was reaping what I sowed and didn't realise it.

Welcome back, stick around.

If I lowered my expectations of others I found I needed less expectations for myself.
That is so relaxing :)

Look for the positives
 
Maybe I do know why I come here. When I came the first time, people really helped me understand when they gave me information about autism. It explained a lot and made me feel less as if I don't belong anywhere. Helped me to understand myself, and my husband, who also is autistic. Made things easier for me.
Because of that, and how it made me feel better and less confused, I want to do that for others.
I could of typed this myself, except I don’t have a partner or anyone, really. I like this community, layout and the colours on here. I find it better than the other sites where I’m connecting with others on a forum. :grinning:
 
Why should someone take time out of their day to deal with your issues or to lend an ear?

I believe (note that I said ‘believe’; anyone can believe or not believe, anything they choose) that kindness is a human necessity.

We need kindness for our minds in the same way that we need air for our bodies. We take some, we give back some, just like the air. If there’s an unbalance in that process, our mental health gets affected.

This is a good place to restore that balance, by receiving, but also giving, kindness.

Welcome back.
 

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