Rxcaffeine
New Member
I’m autistic (in my 30’s), and a parent to 2 NT children and a third who is ND but not autistic.
I struggle intensely with playing with them in ways that make them happy. Most of their ideas of fun play make me really agitated and I try to power through for them but it’s difficult and I need frequent breaks. It’s always very repetitive and loud and it grates on my nerves. They get frustrated when they can’t read the emotions they’re seeking on my face or when they want to touch me lots and I get upset.
I try to redirect them to play that I understand like legos or puzzles etc but they get bored easily. I feel bad asking them for breaks because I can tell they want to be with me but if I get too frustrated I shut down.
I also have difficulties with their curiosity habits since one is still very small and he’ll do things like chew paper or pluck apart my Rubik’s cubes. Obviously I intervene but he is still learning.
Are there other ways to play that are beneficial for kids but won’t make me overloaded? Am I screwing them up socially?
I struggle intensely with playing with them in ways that make them happy. Most of their ideas of fun play make me really agitated and I try to power through for them but it’s difficult and I need frequent breaks. It’s always very repetitive and loud and it grates on my nerves. They get frustrated when they can’t read the emotions they’re seeking on my face or when they want to touch me lots and I get upset.
I try to redirect them to play that I understand like legos or puzzles etc but they get bored easily. I feel bad asking them for breaks because I can tell they want to be with me but if I get too frustrated I shut down.
I also have difficulties with their curiosity habits since one is still very small and he’ll do things like chew paper or pluck apart my Rubik’s cubes. Obviously I intervene but he is still learning.
Are there other ways to play that are beneficial for kids but won’t make me overloaded? Am I screwing them up socially?