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At my wits end

T

tapian

ROSEMORAN
I think this will be my last cryout on here as me and my fiancé are at our breaking point. At least I have had my fill. We have been looking for a house together but have only been looking for a couple weeks and mainly online. Well we were supposed to look at some houses today but I find out two days ago that he put an offer down on a house without so much as telling me about it or letting me see it. He went way over our budget put down waay too much and the worst part is the realtor is his moms good friend and he is prioritizing his moms wishes over mine. the house is seven minutes away from his moms house and it happened to be one that we both viewed online and I told him I hated it. Now he is throwing a coniption because I am upset that he secretly rendezvoused with this woman behind my back the day before we are supposed to look for houses together. I feel like I am not in the picture at all. And on top of that after the huge fight we have he puts down a 3000 dollar earnest check the next day even after I expressed to him my feelings. I am crushed and feeling like I don't even know hi right now. His mother is very well off and he doesn't seem to have the balls to cross her.
 
I can only say that a differing and less-than-transparent opinion on financial independence would be a real deal-breaker for me in any relationship.

Going back to another thread, money matters...like it or not. When a couple isn't on the same plane over such matters, yikes.
 
Trust me there are worse things than being alone, and he's one of them. Despite your feelings for the boy, this would not work out, and would take a terrible toll on you. Move on and in time, you'll be glad. No one deserves to be treated that way.
 
Understand that this is not for you. You might find it bad and unfair right now but if you stay in such a relationship and under the circumstances that you describe, it'll become much worse. Feeling lonely by yourself isn't the worst thing that can happen. Feeling lonely when surrounded by people is, trust me on that!
Good luck and have courage!
 
Your friends here, most with much more experience at life have chimed in for your benefit. We don't like telling you to 86 this relationship, but we believe it's best for you.
 
Does he have a diagnosis, and if so is he getting help. Relationships without compromise, with a condition or not, is going to be a train wreck. Throw in a mother, that enables his behavior, and youve got a ticking time bomb.

Cheers
Turk
 
Turk said:
Does he have a diagnosis, and if so is he getting help. Relationships without compromise, with a condition or not, is going to be a train wreck. Throw in a mother, that enables his behavior, and youve got a ticking time bomb.

Cheers
Turk
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The relationship is still salvageable. People make mistakes. He should be given an opportunity to correct his. Ask him to choose between you and the house.
 
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