I've done it again. Upset my mate because of my Aspie way of looking at things.
My partner and I both travel a lot for work. I've just come back from being away for three weeks, and since my return, he's been out touring [music], and has only been home for short breaks of a day or so at a time.
Adam has two days off in a row this round, today and tomorrow. He leaves again for four days on Sunday morning, but then the tour is done. I got his days off confused, and so have made plans to be away tomorrow, rock climbing with a friend at a park a couple of hours from home. I will leave early, and return late.
Once Adam's tour is over next week, we will have almost all of the rest of December and early January together. For this, I don't feel inclined to cancel my plans with my friend tomorrow. He's an old schoolmate, one of my dearest, and I don't get to see him very often. I take responsibility for my mistake with the calendar, but I really do want to keep our date. I don't have many friends to go climbing with.
I explained my logic to Adam, and he was understanding, but he mentioned that he was really looking forward to being home with me these two days. He seems a bit upset that I'm not wanting to cancel for him. I think he feels I haven't missed him enough. I have, but as I said, I'm going to see plenty of him very soon. I get the feeling that my Aspie logic is making me seem cold to him.
Do any of you have problems like this? If you were in my position, would you cancel, or accept Adam's "understanding" and go anyway? I'm not looking for help with my actual decision. It's made. But I'm curious to hear what people think.
My partner and I both travel a lot for work. I've just come back from being away for three weeks, and since my return, he's been out touring [music], and has only been home for short breaks of a day or so at a time.
Adam has two days off in a row this round, today and tomorrow. He leaves again for four days on Sunday morning, but then the tour is done. I got his days off confused, and so have made plans to be away tomorrow, rock climbing with a friend at a park a couple of hours from home. I will leave early, and return late.
Once Adam's tour is over next week, we will have almost all of the rest of December and early January together. For this, I don't feel inclined to cancel my plans with my friend tomorrow. He's an old schoolmate, one of my dearest, and I don't get to see him very often. I take responsibility for my mistake with the calendar, but I really do want to keep our date. I don't have many friends to go climbing with.
I explained my logic to Adam, and he was understanding, but he mentioned that he was really looking forward to being home with me these two days. He seems a bit upset that I'm not wanting to cancel for him. I think he feels I haven't missed him enough. I have, but as I said, I'm going to see plenty of him very soon. I get the feeling that my Aspie logic is making me seem cold to him.
Do any of you have problems like this? If you were in my position, would you cancel, or accept Adam's "understanding" and go anyway? I'm not looking for help with my actual decision. It's made. But I'm curious to hear what people think.