Hello everybody,
My son(12 years old) was diagnosed with Aspergers recently.
He has also taken an IQ test(Wechsler) and scored 152 (highest possible is 160, which nobody gets). Also among the highest in aptitude tests in the country.
In short he scored in the 99.99% percentile rank in the IQ test and the aptitude test. He is also in music school were he excels, and is very good in computer programming which is a hobby. Loves astronomy and has taken a course on university level etc etc.
On top of that he is kind of lazy...
In short the school system is making me crasy, in how they deal with him.
We live in Scandinavia.
It is extremely difficult to make the teachers, educational people in the "system" understand his needs. Its like they dont want to make the right solutions because of agendas or some "higher" policy.
And how some teachers have talked down to him, when at the same time he is much more clever on the subject than they are and much more articulate.
He defenitely has some asynchronous development, but that is to be expected in his case.
It brings up a lot of challenges this situation. He is not arrogant, or obnoxious, nor are we the parents, overzelous in any way. His biggest problem have been angry outburst, mostly in school where he tears up exams or assignment. It wasnt like that before. Part of that is of course perfectionism that he has developed.
And now he doesn´t want to go to school, basically from extreme boredom, and he has not fitted in for the last 2-3 years in school. Also the school expelled him twice from his behavior. One time he tore up some small book(not in front of anybody), also because he ruined some poster on the wall.
That expulsion (11 years old) just made him resent school, which at the time, although totally bored, had great respect for.
He is getting depressed and the situation is getting out of hand.
He doesn´t show any signs of autism in some categories. Mostly in, how he has difficulties expressing his feelings, and he can also be socially awkard. Those traits have gotten worse for the last 2-3 years. Go figure!
I really dont know what to do.
Do we tackle the situation on his supposed Aspergers, or his "giftedness"?. Or does it matter anyway?
We have told him the diagnosis, but are not sure if its right to dwell on that.
I have no prejudice against autism, but put in the context, I am not sure that approach will do him any good!
Isn´t also possible that the diagnosis could just be totallly wrong? Or am I delusional.. ;-)