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asking people out question

paloftoon

paloftoon

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Is it okay to ask a stranger out?

Like just point blank.

I'm leaning toward no, but maybe some context could make a difference.

What if you're gay/bi and you ask a person out at Hot Topic or Spencer's Gifts not knowing their actual sexuality?
If one asks a person point blank their sexuality, it could be taken as more offensive. However, if you ask a person out, then it is flattering as long as they don't have a problem with your sexuality.

People who work at Hot Topic and Spencer's Gifts are less likely to have such a problem. Also, I like those stores, so if it was me, it's not like I wouldn't possibly fit in enough.
 
I would find it weird, but maybe that's just me.

paloftoon said:
People who work at Hot Topic and Spencer's Gifts are less likely to have such a problem.
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We don't have these shops in the UK, but I wouldn't have thought you could just assume this sort of thing about people. You'll find awful people who are against different sexualities everywhere.
 
If you've been talking to said stranger for a bit, you could contemplate asking them out.

I wouldn't ask out a stranger point blank. As for expressing interest in someone when you don't know their sexuality, IMO it's not much different from expressing interest in someone you know is into your gender. You still have to figure out whether they're interested in you as a person either way. It just might be a good idea to get to know someone a little before expressing interest.
 
I wouldn't just walk up and ask point blank, you'd be blindsiding even some of the most open-minded people, but if you chat them up a bit first then yeah.
 
How would you know whether you'd actually enjoy spending time with a person unless you get to know them a bit first? I would say that casually asking someone you just met for a quick cup of coffee is one thing, but asking that person on an actual date would be quite strange.
 
I have no idea if they still do this, but my gay friends in college said they had secret conversational "signs" they could exchange with strangers to share the fact that they were gay. If those are still being used, you could find out what they are and use them.
 
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