Perhaps that’s where the ‘faking it’ comes into play?
I could be mistaken but I’m guessing that when a person reveals things about themselves to you, things they wouldn’t ordinarily tell everyone, chances are they just want to say it out loud.
Sometimes it doesn’t need understanding, or fixing, or finding solutions for.
Some people just want to tell their story and find their own clarity once they’ve done just that.
I understand ‘a betrayal of trust’ to mean not meeting an expectation or ideal.
Someone confides something personal to me, they can trust me not to blab my mouth off and announce it publicly.
Which was probably what they hoped would happen, their expectation of me.
If you mean by my not understanding everything they’re talking about makes my ‘faking it’ a betrayal of trust then I would ask
‘was it a necessity in the first place?’
Was it my job to understand everything?
If I was employed in a professional capacity as a therapist then understanding a client would be important.
In my own experiences I’ve usually listened to customers, colleagues, acquaintances, family.
It’s never been my responsibility to fix their lives. Just listen, if they want to get something off their chest.
So yes, I am mimicking. (Faking?)
Am I deliberately being devious or deceptive?
To a point yes,
because I’m not naturally equipped with what it takes to do that sort of stuff and someone has just started disclosing to me.
What can I do?
Ask them to be quiet because they’re not making sense and I don’t understand them?
I’m guessing that would hurt them.
I don’t want to add to their hurt.
Deception with no malice?
I wonder right one difference is. -
We're aware were faking it.
Others are not aware.
They've been playing along with 'the game' for so long
They think it's real.
Often the game is - as other people play it -
feign interest until speaking stops.
Talk about self again.