Slithytoves
Oblique Strategist
I'm coming late to this conversation, but I can tell you that you've been given great feedback from some of AC's best. I'm glad their counsel seems to have settled you down a little. It's good that you came here. Welcome! We can help with support, at least. I'm sorry you're feeling so frustrated right now.
I'm 45, and I just found out I had Asperger's this year. I've had decades to adapt problematic traits and I've come a long way. Had I discovered my AS back when I was really struggling, I would have directed a lot of anger, even loathing, at that label. For that, I'm glad I didn't find out until much later.
Try to remember this as you work through your problems. Asperger's itself is neutral. It doesn't hate you, it doesn't thwart you deliberately, and it comes with gifts as well as liabilities. Unpacking your Asperger's and learning what advantages it gives you will help you feel a little better about the troubles it causes. And think about this: You do have the benefit of knowing you have it, which will help you understand yourself/find solutions if you embrace it and study up. Once you start to get better command of yourself, you may find that in many ways our NT friends will envy you. Some of my NT friends and family admire things in me that I can absolutely trace back to my AS.
While I'm being all sunshine and rainbows, here's a list of Asperger's Advantages to reflect on. Like everything in life, the attitude you choose will affect your progress, so it might as well be a good one.
You're obviously pretty smart because you knew to reach out to people who get it. So you do have a solid foundation to make a great life for yourself, whether you see it right now or not.
I'm 45, and I just found out I had Asperger's this year. I've had decades to adapt problematic traits and I've come a long way. Had I discovered my AS back when I was really struggling, I would have directed a lot of anger, even loathing, at that label. For that, I'm glad I didn't find out until much later.
Try to remember this as you work through your problems. Asperger's itself is neutral. It doesn't hate you, it doesn't thwart you deliberately, and it comes with gifts as well as liabilities. Unpacking your Asperger's and learning what advantages it gives you will help you feel a little better about the troubles it causes. And think about this: You do have the benefit of knowing you have it, which will help you understand yourself/find solutions if you embrace it and study up. Once you start to get better command of yourself, you may find that in many ways our NT friends will envy you. Some of my NT friends and family admire things in me that I can absolutely trace back to my AS.
While I'm being all sunshine and rainbows, here's a list of Asperger's Advantages to reflect on. Like everything in life, the attitude you choose will affect your progress, so it might as well be a good one.
You're obviously pretty smart because you knew to reach out to people who get it. So you do have a solid foundation to make a great life for yourself, whether you see it right now or not.