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Are you ever afraid that you scare people off

Jenisautistic

Jenisautistic

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Well, for some time. I’ve had this belief that somehow I scared people off even in my own community I never intended to, and I want to avoid something like this in the future

I look back on my life I know that there is a plan mapped for me in this life. But sometimes I wonder what my life would’ve been like if things were a bit different.

Sometimes I wonder if my dedication for knowledge, advocacy, and getting the inside scoop on all types of developmental disabilities has draw me too far sometimes or at least in the past four years I was unable to properly communicate and it seemed like everyone I met I lost in someway most of the people I knew or who I met for a while before this. I want to be myself I don’t wanna fault my brain being broken so to speak, on myself, but sometimes I wonder if I actually did accidentally scare people off and how can I cope and deal with this fear now and in the future

Anyone feel anything similar maybe in their childhood?
 
You really inspire me. I am tearing up. You have come thru horrible situation that you shared, yet you just kept marching forward. I still am shocked at what happened to you, (horrible incident). Yet, you come here, champion for those like us, navigate life, and are kind enough to share it with us. I have seen you blossom into a loving and caring person. Don't overthink anything. Some people like me, some don't, l accept that. Those people have lost out on knowing what a beautiful soul you are.
 
Strong women always scare others. When we have to fight for everything we stand for and stay strong, some people won't like us, but you don't need to appease them. You need to honor yourself first AND always yourself.
 
I'm sure I have. I don't worry about it. My intentions are good. If people run off, they aren't the right people to have in my life
 
Jenisautistic said:
Sometimes I wonder if my dedication for knowledge, advocacy, and getting the inside scoop on all types of developmental disabilities has draw me too far sometimes...
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I wonder if these same things that seem to have driven some away might be able make you closer to others who share your interests and passions. As Jumpinbare mentioned, maybe the ones who were "scared off" just weren't the right people.

The things you mentioned, "dedication to knowledge, advocacy, and getting the inside scoop," are pretty cool things. Respectable. Interesting. Important. Things to be proud of, I think.

I think it takes continual searching to find those with whom we can totally be ourselves and feel accepted. Maybe some of us only ever get one or two of those people in our lives. Just don't let your experiences tell you that you are faulty or defective. You have too many awesome traits to be telling yourself that. I think you're rad just the way you are.
 
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