Are you constantly disappointed with...

[David D]

People, things, life in general? I feel like I'm never completely happy because I want/expect perfection in everything. I "know" that it's an unrealistic expectation, but it doesn't change the fact that that's what my brain defaults to.

It certainly causes me anxiety, but worse, it causes tension between me and my wife and step-daughter. It seems that I expect more from them than I should realistically ask.

Does anyone else have this problem? How do you deal with it?

 

[King_Oni]

I'm disappointed with humanity as a whole... and everything I read about another war or more generic stupidity... or I read about recipients of the "darwin award" (even though it's not a real award)... I lose more and more faith in how we as humans think we are the dominant and intelligent race. I actually think, there's more intelligent life out there, and the reason we haven't run into them is because they're smart and avoid us like the plague.

That was a slight tangent... but in general, yes I'm disappointed with humanity and I'm disappointed with the national and local government, since from my perspective it seems like they can never get their **** right.

How I deal with it? I try really hard to ignore it. I dive in deep with hobbies and interests and don't interact with people a lot. I try to steer clear from discussing said topics quite often. Honestly, the more I talk about these things, the more it's turning into a huge pile of raging violence within me, which is probably why I shouldn't spend any of my mental capacity on it.

Aside from that yes, I do want some degree of perfection. But I'm a realist and I know not everything can be perfect. So often I settle with what keeps me happy... though apparently that standard is way too high for a lot of people.

 

[Aalo]

I am constantly disappointed with people and how things are managed. I don't deal with it very well.

My mind works that way that I'm always thinking of improvements - or totally new scenarios on how things could get smoother, and that's also a reason why I can't stand it when people are sloppy or just complain. Simply whine without any effort to act. Don't they know that it alone won't help, it won't make anything better. Only thing I can do is to isolate and try to do my own about things I care about. At least others shouldn't find anything to complain about my input.

When it's about someone I'm in closed contact I often try to discuss them about their means of actions. I try never to complain, but question them and make them think. Which of course doesn't lead to results for most of the time. But I don't see there's much more I can do. I've learned pretty good on accepting and not giving a damn. I'd be interested in hearing if anyone else has better ideas about this.

 

[David D]

I too tend to ignore things that upset me that I can't control (our government quickly comes to mind). I don't like to watch the news because it's generally depressing (and biased).

I also am always looking for ways to improve things. I tend to "overthink" things, but do feel pretty good about trying to be intelligent and not just settle for "good enough". I get frustrated and angry when people do blatantly stupid things and don't seem to care (you can imagine what it must be like for me having a teenage daughter!). Things like getting something out of the cupboard and not fully closing the door, or turning on the hall light to find something in the closet and walking away with the light still on. I just can't understand it. I usually get into trouble because I want to "fix" the problem and say something about it. Problem is, I am usually frustrated when I speak, and I can't seem to broach the subject without offending someone.

 

[Peace]

I too am the drill sergeant at my house. Close the door, turn that light out, drop and give me twenty. I think I drive people as crazy as they drive me (but for different reasons).
I am not the type to ignore a problem, or ignorance. I fly to the defense of what is right. I speak out against the corrupt government. I canvass the neighborhood to rally support for a cause, or to inform my neighbors that they are getting screwed unless they attend a meeting and vote.
I am constantly disappointed, but I also constantly try to make things better. I wish I did not feel compelled to do this, it would make life so much more enjoyable.

 

[SUM1]

I'm disappointed with humanity as a whole... and everything I read about another war or more generic stupidity... or I read about recipients of the "darwin award" (even though it's not a real award)... I lose more and more faith in how we as humans think we are the dominant and intelligent race. I actually think, there's more intelligent life out there, and the reason we haven't run into them is because they're smart and avoid us like the plague.

That was a slight tangent... but in general, yes I'm disappointed with humanity and I'm disappointed with the national and local government, since from my perspective it seems like they can never get their **** right.

How I deal with it? I try really hard to ignore it. I dive in deep with hobbies and interests and don't interact with people a lot. I try to steer clear from discussing said topics quite often. Honestly, the more I talk about these things, the more it's turning into a huge pile of raging violence within me, which is probably why I shouldn't spend any of my mental capacity on it.

Aside from that yes, I do want some degree of perfection. But I'm a realist and I know not everything can be perfect. So often I settle with what keeps me happy... though apparently that standard is way too high for a lot of people.

Couldn't agree more.

And no, I'm not happy with general life or people or things.

 

[Maddox]

I'm disappointed with life in general because most of the time it feels like wading in molasses and I'm getting increasingly tired.

Every single improvement that would well be worth a try, like hydropower, is blocked by politicians and commercial interests. It's like one step forward, three back.

If I dare say a simple truth like, there are way too many humans on this planet, wouldn't it be more merciful to restrict reproduction than watch them starve and lead wars for a few meager sources of drinking water, I'm the antisocial monster.

Humanity as a whole denies reality; reason does not count, they are driven by (mainly childish) emotions. I value science and reason and hate the hypocritical farces our politicians provide.

I also dislike people who violate the rules and I have to live with noisy upstairs neighbors who are simply ignorant. And I find people who block the aisles at the grocery store with their shopping carts abhorrent. Yes, I'm deeply frustrated as I think if the members of one species are on average too stupid to handle even such easy to understand rules, what does that say about the species as a whole? Probably that they will kill themselves, which wouldn't bother me, but they will also destroy other species and the biggest part of nature, and that does bother me.

On a personal level, right now I hate it that someone who plays an important role in my life just doesn't get that my taking things literally is no malice but part of my ASD. I can't help it. And no matter how often I explain that fact, it doesn't change. It's as simple as, say what you mean and mean what you say. But somehow it seems I can't get that point across.

I'm frustrated and exhausted because I can't measure up to the expectations of "normal" people and I'm happy that the biggest part of my life lies behind me.

 

[Aspieistj]

I am always extremely had to please. I wish I weren't but when I am honest with myself, it is very unusual for me to feel really satisfied with anything. I have learned not to let these feelings show because many people are very judgmental of my feelings. I am also seldom satisfied with what I accomplish so I don't believe my behavior is aimed at mistreating anyone. I can't help always seeing that something else could have been done to make the outcome even better.